Hi,

I know a girl with whom I was in relation for 3-4 months. We started as good friends and later she started feeling for me. When I denied as I didn't want intercaste marriage, she started torchering me emotionally. She stayed without food for 2-3 days.. later started hurting her.. by cutting hands.. eating sleeping pills in high doses. Recently she took such a step that made her so weak that she was bedridden for 4 months. Now she is back to normal but have started the same. SHe just wants to get married to me. My problem is she is mentally unstable and I being from a low family, consider it a big risk to invite her into my life. I have my own set of issues which will further complicated if she is around. But at the same time I want to help her and get her healed from this mental stress. I have consulted a physchatrist and he has identified her with Cluster-B personality disorder. She needs to be treate d medically with continuous consulting. I need help/guidance with any NGO's or hospitals which can cure such patients by making them realize the importance of life and to fight with problems in life.

Thanks

Let her family deal with her needs. You stay out of it and leave her alone.

If you have to inform her family of your wish to not have contact with her, then do so.

Stay away from her man,she just wants attention,as tala said let her family care for her that isn't your problem and you shouldn't feel guilty about letting her go,stay away man just move on with your life.

I know.. I have been trying har to do that... but since she stays away from her parents.. I have to somehow respond to her. I don't want to make any mistake and let her life go on a toss... so just loooking for all possibilities to save and make her in a sound mind. But I personally do not want any life with her... bcoz with someone like her no one can have a life with peace... I even tried of Osho centres but not sure how effective those are...

I understand man,if you want to do one last thing before leaving,talk to her parents about her behavor she needs help but that isn't your place anymore,her parents need to take her in and more than likely she will be put on anti depressent meds,I understand you feel obligated to help her.But it's not,so call or meet up with her parents and tell them what's going on,show them text messages,emails or saved voice mails it's there job as parents to make sure she is safe.move on man but if needed do that one last thing .

Hmmm.. now her mom and sisters are aware of this, But they haven't told this to her Dada as he is a hear patient. Lately her sister has also lost hope in her and left her to her wish. She says she needs my support to help her come out of this stress. She feels death is the only escape left as everyone is fedup of her and no longer wants her.

She is a creative person and likes music and children. Do you know of any ngo or organization where she can contribute as well as divert her mind towards a peaceful life.

Just me, I would tell her to go get help, and leave me alone until she does, and can act and asociate without the threat of suicide.

I think your best bet is blunt honesty, and tell her, that unless she helps herself, you cannot, and will not help her.

No more of this emotional blackmail.