I was ordered to pay more child support than what I make. I recently lost my job due to no fault of my own and now the enormous support is building up and on top of that the mother harassing me everyday about it and its getting ridiculous there is question that one of the 2 childeren isn't mine I have sent in a paternity test and will b getting the results soon. My question is if I find out that he is not mine can I sign over rights to them both and not have to pay child support because it is way too much and I can't even come close to affording it and I don't want to end up in jail

Click on the following link and do some reading...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search.php?searchid=9578541

Kids aren't the same as cars you can't afford.


And unfortunately... some states don't care who the genetic father is or not... like VA if you spent any time raising the kid at all. I know two guys in jail in VA for refusing to pay support for kids DNA tests have conclusively proven could not be theirs. And the state won't go after the real fathers. Sad isn't it.

I was ordered to pay more child support than what I make. I recently lost my job due to no fault of my own and now the enormous support is building up and on top of that the mother harrassing me everyday about it and its getting ridiculous there is question that one of the 2 childeren isn't mine I have sent in a paternity test and will b getting the results soon. My question is if I find out that he is not mine can I sign over rights to them both and not have to pay child support because it is way to much and I can't even come close to affording it and I don't wanna end up in jail

There's a sticky at the top of the Family Law forum regarding termination of parental rights, which you can read here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/signing-over-rights-read-first-116098.html).

If you lost your job, it is YOUR responsibility to file for a modification based on decreased income - the court is not going to do it for you. Maybe you should try doing that instead of bailing on your kids.

I don't know what you mean by "I have sent in a paternity test" - if you did an at-home kit, the results will not be upheld in court. The only DNA testing that the court will allow is one that THEY conduct; it's the only way to ensure that neither of the parties are being deceptive. So if that is indeed what you did, congratulations - you just wasted your money.

I'll also throw in that based on your location, age of the children, and the nature of your relationship with the mother, you may not even have a legal right to challenge paternity at this point.