Hi I've been in a gay relationship with a women for 12 yrs, we have also raised 3 children together but, every other year she was cheating on me with a man.

When I asked her was she bisexual she would always tell me no she was just hurt and made a stupid mistake I believed her until it kept happening so now some years later we broke up and got back together only 2 find out that that while we were apart she slept with 2 guys and is still involved with one of them she calls just a friend

On top of all of this now she finally after 12yrs wants to say she's bisexual and if were going to have a relationship I have to accept her decision this has been a very hurtful situation to me for yrs

I feel like it's a slap in the face because of this I'm not the proud gay women I use to be I feel like I was made to live a lie with this women and iwant her out of my life completely but we are parents to these kids and really that doesn't matter to me anymore

What should I do about her and my kids and my own situation as far as not being pride to be gay anymore, please help

Hello msangelina, sorry you are going through this. The way I see it though if she has been CHEATING on you with ANYONE you should leave. Get your confidence back through a proper healing, and get a better partner. Much like any divorced couple that has been torn about through infidelity and lying.

I know its not easy and there are kids involved, but they will be fine and always love you, so be good to them, and yourself, by doing what you have to do for yourself.

Gay, bi, or straight, break ups suck, especially the longer term ones. That's all you have to accept.

Doesn't matter if she's gay, straight or bi... she's a dishonest, cheating *^#@

Being bi-sexual doesn't give you the right to cheat on your partner.

Its great she's finally come to the decision that she's bi but that doesn't mean she should be acting on that decision while she is with you.

A cheater is a cheater regardless.

You and your children deserve better and you know it.

Well said you I completely agree a cheater is a cheater no matter what flavor lol so to say lol

So so true. A cheat is a cheat. I am married and on and off I stumble upon males and females that I become attracted to. Even fantasize about. But act out on nothing. So you have to decide whether or not your willing to share. If not then let go