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granny_40
Feb 22, 2011, 06:53 AM
My son is 17 years old he just told us that his 19 yr old. Girlfriend is pregnant! He is still in High School. The mother of the girlfriend is already talking about deductables on her insurance and my son is still in High School NO JOB! Is myself and my husband resposible for the cost? I don't want too get the courts involved this early into it, but I do want too do what is best for my SON and the baby. MY son will be involved in every step of this pregancy he wants too be. What are his/our rights too this child?
cdad
Feb 22, 2011, 07:15 AM
As of right now he doesn't have any rights until the child is born. After the child is born then he will have to go to court to establish his rights as a father and be prepared to pay support and set up visitation for the child.
granny_40
Feb 24, 2011, 07:01 AM
How will they determine how much child support he will have too pay? At the most he will have a part-time job. Because I feel he will not be any good to this baby unless he continues his education. Will they base this on our income?
summer_girl
Mar 3, 2011, 02:34 PM
They won't go after your income. After he's proven paternity (with a test he'll have to pay for), they'll base his payments on his income. I don't think anybody expects that a teen is going to truly cover the costs of a baby. If she and her parents can't come up with enough for the baby's needs, she'll probably get on assistance, maybe in multiple programs.
But until the baby's born and he proves paternity, he has no rights. The girlfriend can exclude him from the pregnancy and seeing the baby afterwards if she wants to, and even after paternity he still has to work with her. It's not clear if she wants him involved or not.
Fr_Chuck
Mar 3, 2011, 08:22 PM
Not always, as he is a minor, living at home, there are in many states a min amount due, and parents are often found liable for their children's debts and bills depending on the state ( in the US) So it is possible that mom and dad will have to pay his bill on this for now.
He needs an attorney at this point, to be sure that after child is born there are court orders for visitation and that child support is set properly according to you state law
summer_girl
Mar 4, 2011, 08:49 PM
Will he still be 17 when the baby is born?
granny_40
Mar 28, 2011, 10:59 AM
As of today the baby is due in October and he will be 18 in September. The mother of the mom to be has informed me that her daughter is going to be on her insurance and that my son needs to take care of all the co-pays. I want too do the right thing by my grandchild and my son but, I am not nor is my son financially able to pay for this and every time they get into a fight she says "I will just take you too court." So I am very confused as too what I should do, I just want too do the right thing! They are together as of right now but they fight on a daily basis. Should I or my son be held responsible for the medical of the mother? I am 40 years old and I have never been this confused about anything in my life. It just seems like to me that they want my son involved as long as he is involved with the girl and I am trying too tell him that he doesn't have too be the her to be a part of his baby's life.
AK lawyer
Mar 28, 2011, 11:12 AM
... The mother of the mom to be has informed me that her daughter is going to be on her insurance and that my son needs to take care of all the co-pays. ...
First, if I were representing your son, I would argue that he should only be obligated for half of the co-pays, for necessary medical treatment.
... Should I or my son be held responsible for the medical of the mother? ...
You really need to consult an attorney in your jurisdiction, but it is very possible that you are not obligated at all. Again, see a lawyer, now!
... It just seems like to me that they want my son involved as long as he is involved with the girl and I am trying too tell him that he doesn't have too be the her to be a part of his baby's life.
I can't make out exactly what you are saying in this sentence. He "doesn't have to be there... "?