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brazilianone
Feb 22, 2011, 12:21 AM
hi guys..
well I hate to say this but now I am in the middle of a similar situation..
I am canadian moved to the middle east, met a man for a random sex, he was incredibly hot in bed... and we clicked, and since then it has been love emails, songs, cards, choclates, u name it.
he has been gay all his life.. last relationship he breaks up and his family decide that its time to get married he meets a girl, 2 weeks later his marriage is arranged and boom he is married.
the wife is educated, and he is 35 she is similar age. And now married less than a year and she is 4 months pregnant, and now I am with him. Here in this culture for men its OK to hang out together, and the wives stay at home or do their own thing.. so its perfect environment for a man to cheat with another man. He wants to introduce me to his wife as his best friend.. from canada.
I really like him.. we are having a serious chat today.. because I need to talk about few things that are bothering me.
please everyone be kind with your response.. and please feel free to respond to my email address directly.
>removed<
its hard to find a man that I can click with, he is extremely good looking, passionate and all.. and remember that marriage was forced on him by family he had no choice.
please I will be thankful to all who respond to me. On this issue.

mango99
Feb 22, 2011, 06:39 AM
Ever heard of honor killings my friend?

I was raised an arab. Trust me it won't last.

roxypox
Feb 25, 2011, 03:08 PM
This is a tricky situation.Normally Iwould say that he is married,so you should leave it alone. Taken=not available. This situation is complicated, but the saying still applies.. don't it?

even though his family has arranged his marrige for him so that he can live in a straight marrige despite being gay and the two of you, who have the same sexual prefferance, have hit it of... he IS unavailable. In some ways he is available (sexually, romanticly and he can be good company), but since the situation is what it is AND his wife is pregnant that he is unavailable.

I honestly think that you should consider to get out of this altogether. It is a highly sticky situation (to say the least). The sad fact is that we don't always meet the right people at the right time and considering all the other facts of the matter you should get out of this and consider finding someone else who is available for the type of relationship you are looking for.

I honestly think that he is not going to provide you that.

robinad
Mar 17, 2011, 01:40 AM
It doesn't sound healthy or fair to his wife. It sounds like she is the other person in this relationship. I guess I'm never okay when there are tons of lies going around.