I am a lesbian. My girlfriend and I have been together over a year and we had been living together for about 9 months. We were very much in love and we spent every waking moment together. We had a great fun and loving relationship. We are also bestfriends. Anyone would tell you how in love we are. We are both very young me being 20 and she 19, we had a lot of stress on our relationship. We were very tight on money but we were still happy because that was just a sacrifice we had to make to be together.

Well one month after our one year anniversary she decides she wants us to move back in with our moms. She said she wants to be making all the money she is now without having to pay any bills. She said she wants to be able to take me out on the weekends and buy me things. She also said she wanted to miss me again. She said if we continue to live together then our relationship would not last much longer. So I was devastated. I felt like she had fallen out of love with me and I just jumped to conclusions and started feeling sorry for myself instead of trying to really hear her out.

I left that night and I went meet an ex which was the worst thing I could do. The next day I came clean to her and she broke up with me.. so I moved out that night.. after a few days she called me and we started talking again. I spent the night with her for valentines day. We tried not to fight and eventually she told me she had been sleeping with two other girls for the past few days.. she broke down crying and said she didn't want to do it but she felt like she needed to get me back. I told her I understood but I was so heartbroken.

We had a wonderful night and we did NOT have sex. We talked as if we were still together but still she told me she did not want the relationship. I told her I'm tired of waiting and holding on to something that will never be. She told me she loves me and wants me in her life but its just too complicated so I just decided to break the whole thing off.

We have not talked in two days and I miss her terribly.. I know she loves me and I am willing to wait but I don't know if I should keep holding on or just let her go. What should I do? She tells me to wait just for s little while and I don't want to live without her, but its either she takes all of me or none of me.. I can't just be her friend.

I don't want to live without her, but its either she takes all of me or none of me.. I can't just be her friend.

I think you stick to your guns, and leave her alone, heal, and find someone who wants you, as much as you want them. Why be friends, and try to get more than they are willing to give, and be miserable while they are enjoying their life, and you, when they have time for this friendship?

Let her go and find someone who wants to be with you, instead of someone who is going to make you wait for the chance of you two getting back together. Then, once you are over it, you can start trying to become friends with her again.

Good luck,

Javi

Let it play out how its suppose to my whole life I have tried to make things right..
But it never turned out how I wanted to if she loves you, She will come to you when she is ready