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morgan.1978
Feb 16, 2011, 09:48 AM
Hi,
My ex has told me that I am not the father to our son. I have asked for a DNA test and she refused to get one done. I don't k know whether she is telling me the truth or whether this is a way to stop me from seeing my son.

Please can someone advise on if she can remove me from the birth certificate or would she need to prove I am not the biological father before she could do this?
Sorry to be vague

morgan.1978
Feb 16, 2011, 09:53 AM
Hi,
My ex has told me that I am not the father to our son. I have asked for a DNA test and she refused to get one done. I don't know whether she is telling me the truth or whether this is a way to stop me from seeing my son.

Please can someone advise on if she can remove me from the birth certificate or would she need prove I am not the biological father before she could do this? Sorry to be vague

ballengerb1
Feb 16, 2011, 10:10 AM
Are you legally divorced, if so what did the decree say about visitation

morgan.1978
Feb 16, 2011, 10:36 AM
We were not married. This has nothing to do with marriage. This is to do with my name being on my child's birth certificate as the farther. As I said my ex has said I'm not the biological father. She won't do a DNA to prove this and my question is simply, can she remove my name from the birth certificate without proving through DNA that I'm not the dad.

ScottGem
Feb 16, 2011, 03:44 PM
First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

You don't ASK for a DNA test. You go to court and COMPEL one. Depending on where you are and how old the child and the circumstances of his birth you may be the legal father regardless of DNA.

She can't take you off the birth certificate without a court order and she won't get a court order without a DNA test.

Has anything been done in court regarding custody and visitation?

Fr_Chuck
Feb 16, 2011, 08:41 PM
Agree with Scott, you are wasting your breath and her time, "asking" for a DNA test. If there is a reason to question it, you go to court and get a court order for one, and then she will have to.

Or of course if you are on the birth certificate you are legally the father even if you are not the bio father

So do you have court ordered visits, if not you can go to court for that also,

Is there a child support order?

morgan.1978
Feb 17, 2011, 01:33 PM
Hi

Sorry for the confusion. I'm not seeing the child at the moment but I just wanted clarification on the birth certificate issue, so thanks for that. I actually do think I am the father and surly if I wasn't she'd want me off the birth certificate?
I don't pay maintenance and CSA not involved, which sounds bad, but believe me when I say that I do want to be involved in my child life, but things really ****ty with the ex.

Thanks for your help I really appreciate it

ScottGem
Feb 17, 2011, 03:43 PM
If you want to be involved in your child's life GO TO COURT! You have to affirm your paternity and level of custody and enforce visitation. The only way is through a court. If you haven't already start shopping for an attorney first thing in the AM.