View Full Version : Dating advice from guys, over 50
yuyito
Feb 13, 2011, 11:10 PM
I met someone on line. We went out for dinner on a Friday. I told him that I was working on the weekend; therefore I was busy. He said that he will give me a call to do something the following weekend. Next day Saturday, he emailed me one of those funny emails that you pass around. He emailed me the next Wed, a nice one. I responded, but I have not heard from him since. He is a scorpio.
I don't know what to think. Maybe he has seen me that I have been online, and thought that I'm still looking, or simple there was no attraction.
What you guys think.
Wondergirl
Feb 13, 2011, 11:25 PM
Email him and ask him out. "Hey, Jim! There's a terrific new movie that's gotten great reviews, and it's coming to town this weekend. May I treat you to it with pie and coffee afterwards?"
somaspecialist
Mar 9, 2011, 12:16 AM
I'm a guy... I'll be honest and I'm going to say this... I don't send a funny email, text, or anything to women I'm NOT ATTRACTED TO, because we know you ladies like a guy with a sense of humor... right?? Chill out it's new, you just started dating right... if a guy is attracted to you he'll make it happen... besides he doesn't want to sound desperate...
yuyito
Mar 9, 2011, 12:38 AM
Thank you, but toooooooooo late. Here is the thing guys, I'm not going to have a stroke thinking whether he's interested or not, and waiting for him to call; if he does not call in a couple of days, we need to move on. No playing games, pleeeease.
somaspecialist
Mar 9, 2011, 08:03 AM
OK... your saying its not okay to be busy?? Just asking? If he hasn't called in a week, then yes... he's not interested... but two days or less... I didn't know there was a timeline in dating... aren't women always saying they don't want a needy guy? And you don't need to get a stroke for waiting on his phone call or whatever if your having your own fun... go see someone else at the same time... he doesn't own you and you don't own him... with that said... I don't know how long he hasn't called... but be patient... just not tooo patient.
I wish
Mar 9, 2011, 11:40 AM
Sounds more like you already rejected him. He asked you out last weekend but you said that you were busy. Seems to be that the ball is on your side of the court to reschedule with him as you were the one who rejected him the first time around.
yuyito
Mar 9, 2011, 08:46 PM
Thanks for taking the time to answer. How old are you by the way. There is more to the story. But generally, here is what happens on the woman's stand. I go out on a date with this man I met online. If he calls within the next few day, and says that he enjoyed the date, etc. that is classy, and any woman would feel nice about the guy, even if she was not interested. If he calls after 5 days or a week, the message is that probably he was not really interested, but would like to have you just in case or as a friend. Of course if he does not call, then, he's history. Am I right, guys? If the guy take too long to call me, it is obvious to think that he's not interested, and I would pay attention to someone who is. How do I know unless he calls!!
Yes, nobody owns me or I own anybody, but when I'm interested on a man, he will be the only one I would focus on.
Fr_Chuck
Mar 9, 2011, 08:53 PM
Strange, I wonder why women think the man has to call, why can't she call if she is also interested and ask him to do something ?
And no, nothing is obvious. He may also be dating several other women right now, ( that is what online dating is, time to meet and date various people,) no one is making a commentment right now?
So when he emailed a qute email, what did you do , did you write back a nice email bacl to him.
somaspecialist
Mar 10, 2011, 08:03 AM
Thanks for the additional info... ok I'm saying this becasuse being that I once was the man you were describing until I realized my mistakes and I was being hurtful to the women who didn't deserve it... here's the truth... when were BOYS... we love the thirll of the chase... of love building that "list" (fellas here now what I'm talking about) and maybe you fall into #XXX on that list... meaning I call whenever I feel like o wait till she calls me... we do this to build confidence in ourselves to find the courage to talk to women... why... because like confident men right?? We can't build confidence if don't practice... (I learned not always not be Mr. Nice Guy all the time)... but here's the down fall... the ones that stay on top of that list... meaning the girl who looks the hottest or the one "who is easy to please" are the ones who are freaking needy drama queens... and the ones on the bottom of the list... like yourself is gone for good...
somaspecialist
Mar 10, 2011, 08:20 AM
When we grow up,. we find out the ones we didn't call... are the ones we missed out on... Real Men EVENTUALLY find out... that good women are easy to get along with but they're smart enough to see through our bull****... which to me was scary... but I realized they're not *****y or narissistic... they just want a man to GO GET THEM... and MEN, YOU BETTER GET THEM BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DOES and if you GET THEM... she'll reward you for it... took awhile to realize that because... that girl on the top of the list made it "So easy"... Good girls don't come to me... to go get them... how?? BY calling every other day but not everyday... I usually wait 3 maybe 4 days max... I want to make a girl no WOMAN... enjoy the feeling of anticipation... not the feeling of rejection... I play the game still but when I like a girl she'll know because real MEN will make it happen... sorry for being wordy... just needed to say that... I'm 29 by the way...
yuyito
Mar 10, 2011, 11:57 PM
Thanks for the responses. It helps to know guys' opinion. But here is something for you guys. Most women who initiate the call,and continue calling is because they want to make sure he's interested in them. They usually want to sound very cute, dressed to provoke, and constantly shaking their tail when they are around you; for sure they want to play, and most likely, they are also willing to play with others as well. I would agree and say, Go ahead, play and get your training.
These other women know exactly what they want in a relationship with a man, and they will screen men until they find what they are looking for. Now, these women can move their tail as well, but naturally, without exageration.
Why wait for him to call, instead of me calling him? Because that's what I want.
Women like confident men, meaning, they have a stable job (any); they know what they want in life and pursue their goals. But mostly, we want honest guys, even if they don't have a clue of their feelings... just say it, "I'm clueless." Don't worry, we'll help you. We will figure out something for you to feel! Now, I know what You are thinking, but is not what I meant.
I personally don't like super confident guys; they can be sooo arrogant. Tell the woman what she wants and expects from you; she will tell you.
Anyway, this is my last. Thank you guys, your info was interesting, and appreciated!
talaniman
Mar 11, 2011, 10:44 PM
You don't have to shake your booty to make a phone call. Or dress provocatively to see what someone is up to. Whether we are 17, Or 70, we can't read minds. But we can get rejected and explore other options. You say you play no games, he didn't either the way I see it, but if you met online, then he probably is still on line. Its dating, and single people date whomever they want. Man or woman. Who knows, he may pop up in 6 months or so, and that's okay since you are both just dating.
If people like each other they won't burn bridges, or carry grudges. Older guys like to take their time. What's the hurry? Maybe that all he wants is dates, not a girlfriend. For now. You never know, but never assume either.
Talaniman Rule - Date them all. Short, fat skinny, or tall. 18-80. Blind, cripple, or crazy.