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Katt_
Feb 11, 2011, 11:47 AM
Hi I am 13 years old and I am having trouble with my mom! I have been trying to avoid a fight between us, but she throws her self at me and says hit me c/mon hit me ! So like I just leave my house to avoid problems! But then she calls the police on me and I honestly don't want to live with her for so many reasons . But the number one reason is that I don't want to end up hitting her in the face or nuttin like that!I have like anger issues just like her when I am pist off I will sockk any one who is in my way and if I stay with her its going to happen and I don't want to go to juvy! Many of my aunts said they would take custody of me what can I do?all my life we have had problems so I need a solution. I'm not comftorble living with her! At all .

smoothy
Feb 11, 2011, 12:16 PM
First off... Rule #1. The world does not revolve around you.

That means you have to learn how to live with others... and learn that you have to listen to them... and not argue with them.

You will have to do this your entire life... not just until you turn 18.

Right now you mom is your boss... you do as she says. When you are old enough... you will have a job... you do as your boss says... or you won't have a job... argue with your landlord... you will find yourself without a place to live...

Argue with a cop... and you find yourself in a cell. Argue with a judge... you spend a LONG time in a cell.

Pick a fight with someone on the street... and you may not survive long enough to be an adult.

That's the harsh reality of the world. Best to learn the lesson now before it ruins your future chances.

Nobody likes a kid with an attitude... a young adult with an attitude... or an adult with an attitude. And on your own alone... you won't get very far. And with a bad attitude... you WILL find yourself alone.

Do yourself a huge favor... work on your anger issues... or ask for help to do it. There are anger management resources available. At 13 its far from being too late.

tickle
Feb 11, 2011, 12:17 PM
Katt your advice in this thread https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/can-friends-mom-adopt-me-out-mom-giving-me-up-506651-2.html is totally inappropriate and not legally sound. If you had read that entire thread from some of our legal experts you would have found that what you are suggesting is not possible in today's world.

As for your situation, well are you sure that your mom says 'come on hit me', the way you write that statement, it totally sounds like you are egging your mom on to hit you. One of the reasons she is not probably is because you are her child and she loves you, and probably has been driven to distraction with your teen angst.

Sounds like you have a serious anger issue which must be controlled by you, or learn how to deal with it through professionals, before you wind up in juvenile detention, which I assure you won't like anymore then you like livng at home.

The solution is, Katt, taking control of your anger and turn it to productive use. At l3 you should be able to figure this out.

Tick

JudyKayTee
Feb 11, 2011, 12:27 PM
I don't know which of your two posts reflects your real self. Is it this one I am reading or the other, which says: "Hey the name is katt <3 ! i am 13 and i have been through the exact same **** your goingg througgh !!!! annnd itt sukks it really does but sit your mom down and talk to her andtell her that your not happy with what this stupid man whore is telling you! tell her its not fair and that you can't live like this !
tell her that your moms friends has offered to let you live with her and that you wanna live with her for awhile because you feeel that if you dont your gunnah end up kikkin her boyfriends ***!
and tell her that youu need some space !
she will probably understand !
i know my mom did !
andd you should haveyourmoms friend talk to her too !"

Your language is offensive; your attitude is offensive; your thoughts are illogical.

Nobody is taking custody of you unless your mother allows it.

Juvenile Hall - that's another story.

ScottGem
Feb 11, 2011, 04:41 PM
Your post in the other thread has been removed because of language and the fact that the thread was several months old and also because it was bad legal advice.

On another note, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedback/using-comments-feature-24951.html

You gave me a negative rating in that thread because you didn't like the advice. While that is your right, it is not allowed to give a negative rating unless the response is factually incorrect, which it wasn't.

As far as your post here, if you have anger management issues get counseling. If you need to get away from your mom go in your room and close your door. But she is your mom and you need to learn how to deal with her, at least for 5 more years.