I discovered that my husband has been in contact with a former girlfriend. He emailed with her from an email account which showed them in contact for about 3 years. He emailed a picture of his erect penis. Is this cheating?

When you catch them doing adult show-n-tell even over the computer its cheating--period. Listen unless he has a contract with playgirl somewhere that you know about and have agreed to. Then no married man needs to be showing his personnel business to a former girlfriend over the internet!!

What would you tell your girl friend if she came to you and shared this same story about her husband?

Time for a serious chat with your husband about what has been going on and what is going to happen now. Whether he has been having a true relationship with this woman or he got caught up in stupid adolescent behaviour may or may not figure into what your course of action will be.

I am sorry you are having to go through it.

My wife wouldn't ask me if I cheated, she would be try shoving the computer up my arse for cheating. Wives define cheating, not the dictionary.

SO DO HUSBANDS, TO BE FAIR!!!!

Of course it is, would you be emailing naked photos of yourself and it be OK

I'm sorry for you. It sounds like a nightmare.
I would definitely define that as cheating.

He's been in contact with an ex for three years, I'd say that says more than the picture of his pp.

As she has been kept a secret, she IS 'The Other Woman', and he IS 'The Cheating Husband'.

For three years he has been carrying on, while lying, cheating, deceiving, and fooling you into believing that he was faithful.

I can only say that if it were me, he would be taking himself, and his girlfriend, out of my life.

If you consider it cheating, then it's cheating.

Some people are comfortable with sharing pictures with other people, but that's something the couple has to agree on beforehand.

The fact that you weren't aware of this, and aren't okay with this, makes it cheating. If he had nothing to hide he would have told you about it. The fact that he didn't tell you means he's doing something he knows is wrong, something he wants to hide from you.

What did he say when you confronted him about this?

I am currently being pursued by my ex boyfriend. He has been with his new partner for several years yet contacts me by sms asking to me to meet him for coffee, sending smiling face pics, then sms's how much he misses having sex with me, and now he has started sending me **** pics.

I feel so sorry for his poor unsuspecting partner and have chosen to ignore him as I don't want to win the prize of a cheating man.

Yes, a man who sends a pic of his ****, is a man that is looking for someone/thing to stick it in.