I meet my ex on a euro trip back in April, and honestly it happened like it was a movie. Long story short we became really close and a month after we started talking I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. The first three months that we were together were amazing and we didn't even argue once and really just enjoyed each others company. We both lost our virginity to each other.

After three months though I had to leave for college, and she was still in high school. We had a serious talk before I left for college and we both decided that we wanted this relationship to last no matter how hard it may be. I came home every other weekend and sometimes 3 weekends in a row, just to see her. The day I moved to my dorm she came with my family and wrote me the sweetest letter and literally cried in my arms for 20 minutes. We were both in love and nothing seemed to be stopping us.

But then I noticed that her texts started taking longer and longer to arrive and even at one point got so bad that we would send 8 texts on one day. I realized something was wrong but when I asked her about it she said nothing was wrong. Also after college our sex life kind of just died and that was another thing that kind of bothered me.

Come Thanksgiving break we had stopped talking for a bit because to me she just didn't care and needed space so I gave it to her. Over break we hung out and everything seemed to be going better than ever, I even went with her to her cousins wedding and she introduced me to her family as her boyfriend. A week after the wedding she texts me after I had a little fit about our lack of a sex life that she doesn't think we have much of a future together. Keep in mind we have never really gotten into an argument, and the day before she ended it with me she said she loved me, and wanted to stay with me.

After she said that it was over I didn't text her and let her be, I only talked to her once and that was to apologize for being so pushy with the sex thing. The worst part of everything though was two weeks after she broke up with me it was my birthday and she was supposed to come up and see me, which is something that we were discussing a couple days before she broke up with me. She was nice enough to text me but that was it.

Come winter break I wrote her the nicest letter I could write and she never even responded and I only got to talk to her the next day because I saw her at a concert. When I talked to her she said she doesn't love me anymore and just doesn't care about anything we ever had, she also got pretty angry when I asked her about it. And now I hear that she has already hooked up with multiple guys less than a month after we broke up. I don't know what to do, I want her back more than anything but I'm pretty sure she's gone forever. I need help with ideas as to what I can do, I asked to remain friends but she never talks to me, however she does show interest in me finally being able to drive my car.

I know that it's probably best I move on, but after thinking about it for a month I've decided that I'd rather have her back and will do anything it takes! It has been two months with no contact and she still has not contacted me at all, and I haven't either except for a merry christmas text. The only time I have actually talked to her was when I saw her at an event I went to.

Oy. I know how you feel, but from my experiences none of your tactics are going to work. It sounds like she had been trying to distance herself for a little while before she broke it off and then she finally got the courage to break up with you over Thanksgiving.

I know how it feels to have a wonderful beginning with someone and then for them to 180 on you. It feels like whiplash and it's very confusing. I had a that kind of relationship right at the beginning of college and I tried to lure him back to me for several months.

You may not want to hear this, and I know that you're asking what you can do to get her back, but it looks like you just need to get over it and move on. You're in college now and you have a whole new world of opportunity for meeting other nice girls. If your ex girlfriend wants you back, she knows your number and how to get in touch with you. Sometimes exes do come around after they realize what they had with you, sometimes they don't. Trust me, whatever happens is for the best. You have a great relationship waiting for you someday in the future, I promise!

Your right with your header line-she doesn't CARE!! You need to stop WAITING around for mere crumbs from her!!

She has moved on with her life, rather it be with one guy or several it doesn't matter. Why keep appearing to her that you give a rats. You only appear desperate and begging for her attention.

You are in College, get out and enjoy the college life!! Stop sitting around dwelling over a girl who dumped you!! There are plenty of young ladies who would live to have a committed boyfriend, who knows how to show he cares. Stop coming back home so much, stay a the dorms until you feel like you can handle being around her better!!

Take care

You have two problems: 1) you are deluded into thinking that your want for her is enough to bring her back and convince her to stay 2) She's not thinking about you but all you do is think of her.

It's time to move on. From your short description of your relationship, you may need to reevaluate the relationship from a different perspective. Do you consider yourself clingy? Needy? Demanding? If not, then you should re-read your statements, because that is how you come across. No woman or man wants to be with someone who puts their needs ahead of everyone. You need her, therefore you feel justified in pining over her, but you're not. Think of her needs: she needs to be able to make up her mind (which she has) without the constant pressure and anxiety of running into you or getting a random text message, she needs to be able to be happy but you don't care.

Stay NC until she gets in touch with you. Then you will know she is interested (or bored), and you don't have to make a fool or pest of yourself.

And you may as well be enjoying yourself while you wait, because it could take forever for her to call you, because she is having too much fun, doing her own thing.

Ya I get that I was clingy which I feel bad about but needy and demanding? No. Like I said I haven't bothered her about it since she decided to break up with me, I only asked for a reason why the next day and when I didn't get it I left her alone because I understand that she doesn't want to talk to me and I want her to be happy. But don't you think I deserved a answer? I don't follow her around and text her like all I care about is her, and like I said in the question I only texted her to say merry xmas... is that so bad? I understand what your saying but I was just wondering if there was a way to get her back if possible or maybe get an answer to why we broke up so I can put this all behind me. Once again I realized I was kind of clingy but I was learning what it meant to be in a relationship, especially with someone as pretty as my ex. I would have been more than willing to change if she had said anything about it but when I asked her what was wrong but she never said anything

You texted Merry Christmas, received no answer---it is now almost Valentine's day---still no response--just when do you think she is going to get around to giving you a reason as to why she is HAS MOVED on with her life. You need to face a fact, and that is no matter what reason she gives you it will not be good enough to cure your broken heart, it will not change the fact she no longer wants a relationship with you. It is time for you to STOP dwelling on her and start putting some of that energy into getting your life back on right course for yourself!!

Take care

She did respond to my merry xmas text and I'm pretty sure if I needed to talk to her right now she would respond. Does that mean she loves me? Not at all and I know that. And to clarify I have been doing a lot with my time and not dwelling on her. Nothing will change if I just stayed at home and cried about it. I've been working on myself by going to the gym, improving my performance in all my classes and even picking up a couple of hobbies that I have become rather good at. I asked this question to see if there was anyone out there who had an idea on how I could get her back if it was possible, because it probably it... just hard as hell. And just to add I have been talking to plenty of girls and something inside me I guess just keeps pulling me back. I guess one part of me wants to move on and the other does not?

Oh and I never thought for a second that my want for her was enough to bring her back, I know better than that I was just wondering if anyone had an idea on what I could do because we obviously had a connection before and I just wanted to try and rekindle it.

Do you know why you want her back? Or can you not explain that? I know you are thinking with emotion rather than logic. People here already told you to think with logic, but I'm sure it's hard for you to do that. I would say it is impossible. I think it doesn't matter what think it may be the best for you. You want her back. If I am right up to now, do this: show her that you don't care anymore, have fun and do whatever you want. If she believed you moved on perhaps she might feel its less awkward to approach you. Right now she won't talk to you because she does not want to hassle to deal with you. If you shown her that you moved on then both of you will be on the same page. By being on the same page you can have conversations again, and eventually she may be comfortable enough to discuss why things happen the way it did.

Your right, I can't explain that. But I do know that at this point I am thinking more with logic rather than emotion, however the emotion is still very much there. But you hopefully that does happen, in the end I don't mind as long as we are friends I'd be happy... I just don't want whatever friendship we had to just die