Dear Experts,

I am writing to you for a weird issue, *** don't get embarrassed .
I always do sex sitting on my boyfriend . He wants it . As his point , my orgasm takes long time , so he can not work so long time. And now I am accustomed with it ,always I do sex sitting on him. He stays only few minutes, enter and thrushes and then I sit on him and do all job. I did never try for Anal sex also me and my boyfriend is not interested in it. We always like to do sex through Vagina.
But my problem is different , very difficult to express. Sometimes while I do sex sitting on my Boyfriend , thrashing and grinding on him I got the feeling that my stool is coming out . And then I start to try to control the stool let it not come out; and at the same time trying for my orgasm. And finish my orgasm in fear. And the weird and shame thing that it happened 4 times that I could not control and my stool dropped on his balls and in the bed . What a shame! At first my boyfriend won't get annoyed but last day he got annoyed. What should I do ?

Now , how can I prevent this ? I always have to do sex sitting on him ,it is the rule. And I love him so much. Can you help me with your good suggestions?
Is there any medicine that will make my stool harder for at least 6 hours , I would swallow /take it just before sex, stay tension free and that will not harm my health. Or any tricks that I do the sex properly siting on him ? I have no problem with my stool. Generally , It looks normal, a little mucusy. But sometimes when I do sex sitting on my Boyfriend ; I fall in embarrass position ,my stool drops and ruin everything. Please help.

Thanks in advance for your good advice soon.

Regards
Nibedita
Bangladesh

There's really only one suggestion I can make, and that is for you to go to the bathroom before you have sex, empty your bowels.

I do have a problem with this part of your post;


I always have to do sex sitting on him ,it is the rule

Whose rule? His? Do you not have a say in your sex life? If not, that's the bigger of the issues in my opinion.

Dear Altenweg,
Thanks for your reply.
I always go to bathroom before sex. But sometimes the bowels just not get fully cleaned. And accident happens. Any other suggestions ? Or medicine ?
My Boyfriend is aged 47 years old . He has a heart problem also . So, he get tired with long time working and that is why I need sit on him and do all jobs.

Will appreciate your any advice on my question.
Nibedita