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SosoTrey
Feb 7, 2011, 07:40 PM
Hi I'm 17 and I have been going out with some guy but then things got intense like he tought that I liked his best friend which of course is not true so we stop talking and seeing each other. Its been a 2 years since all of this happen and we never really breake up and now that he moved things are more complicated. But the thing is that I realized that every time someone ask me out it just never feels right like I was cheating on him but somehow we are not togheter. Urgg I'm so lost I don't know what to think and do anymore... more than 2years and I'm still not over him? What should I do?

talaniman
Feb 7, 2011, 10:01 PM
Have you been holding out hope all this time that he comes to his senses and talks to you again??

Shybliss18
Feb 8, 2011, 10:46 AM
Hmmmmmm maybe you should try to talk to him again and if he isn't going to even try to work things out with you then kick him to the curb

SosoTrey
Feb 8, 2011, 04:51 PM
We stop talking 2 years ago but now he talks to me once in a while on msn and in our last conversation he told that he missed me...

Homegirl 50
Feb 8, 2011, 06:13 PM
Girl, it's been two years. You two are not dating.
You should tell yourself that you are not attached to this guy and it's time you get a life. I'm sure he has one apart from you.

I don't men to be rude but two years? Get out and have some fun.

talaniman
Feb 8, 2011, 06:57 PM
I think old feelings, and some curiosity, have been stirred up by the contact online. It doesn't take much for a person to be reminded of those feelings we once had. Yours were just beneath the surface though, and you need to be aware that YOU have not replaced old feelings, and memories, with new ones.

What the heck have you been doing for two freakin' years?? Never mind, it couldn't have been much fun.

SosoTrey
Feb 20, 2011, 04:31 PM
Looll believe me you don't need ANY boyfriend to have fun pfff seriously its not a big deal well for me... u though I don't think so

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I'm always outside having fun + I'm not the kind of girl that stays at home crying for some guy its so pathetic yeahh nwayz thank you though!

Homegirl 50
Feb 20, 2011, 05:23 PM
You say you're still not over him and asking what should you do. You have been carrying a unrequited torch for someone for two years, so much so you feel like you are cheating if another guy wants to talk to you. That does not sound like much fun to me.
You are 17, too young for this kind of drama. He missed you. Don't fall into this trap by reading something into this.
Declare yourself "broken up" and get him out of your system

SosoTrey
Feb 20, 2011, 11:09 PM
Lool your just so wrong what I said was that when a guy wants me to be their girlfriend I just don't want it to but talking to them well I'm actually more than cool with that
Also I don't remember saying that I was depressed so stoop saying that I don't have fun because that is just bs serioulsy
I don't know if know but there is something called having FRIENDS?!
And the reason why I WAS so lost was because of what he told me not so long ago but wtvv you might be right as much as wrong but all I now is that I'm soooo ovaa this thingyy
By the way if you need to be in a relationship to have fun well you so pathetik I don't understand girl like that?

talaniman
Feb 21, 2011, 04:32 AM
Give yourself some time, and keep doing what your doing, and this latest wave of feelings for him will fade to the back of your memory. Most of us would have a wave of feelings if an old ex said they missed us. That doesn't mean you HAVE to be lost and confused though, because its only a temporary thing.

Homegirl 50
Feb 21, 2011, 07:44 AM
But the thing is that I realized that everytime someone ask me out it just never feels right like i was cheating on him but somehow we are not togheter. urgg im so lost I dont know what to think and do anymore...more than 2years and im still not over him?!

This is what you said. I am gong by what you said, when someone ask you out it feels like you're cheating.
I don't think you need to be going with someone to be happy, I do think to be this confused over someone you have not dated in two years cannot be a happy situation.
If conversing with him brings this on, stop doing it. His saying he missed you are just words, let them pass and move out of this state of confusion.
As a side note, when you right in text it can be difficult to get a full understanding of what you are saying which is why you are not supposed to on this site.
I wish you well.