I have a guy friend and we have been best friends for eight years now. I have always been in love with him and four years ago I expressed it to him that I did. He rejected me and I was so hurt. We still stayed friends, real good friends. I told him I would lose weight for him and change just for him(thinking it was my looks. Well I did it. I dropped 50 pounds. And I am completely different looks wise. Well.. it wasn't until this year we started doing stuff.. he still wasn't in love but I was still. He used me but I didn't care besides I was in love with him, it wouldn't matter. We never had sex.

This was back in this summer. Everything changed when December came around this year. He told me he loved me! Except I was dating someone.. I ended up cheating on the poor guy( he broke up with me over something stupid anyway) and he brought me all kinds of stuff, started talking to me at school( he has never done this before NEVER) we are outside of school friends :( anyway.. he wrote me all kinds of letters and they said things like I want you to be the mother of my kids and I want to grow old with you etc.

By this time of my life from being hurt and heartbroken I didn't want to say yes when he asked me out. I said we can date this summer. I wanned to see if he meant it. Worse mistake ever was when I started falling deeply for it. He said he would lose his virg.. with me because he loved me(he was always the one to say he's waiting for marriage) I was shocked. Of course I fell for it.. so we did it. This went on all the way from December 10th to January 17. Jan 20 I asked him out and he said that he wanted to get closer to God and to just wait for the summer.

I cried right in front of him. I was devastated and hurt and confused and ugh! I begged him thinking it'll work since he did that to me and it workd.. idk.. well so I let him be and let him get closer to God because I would never do something to get in the way of God I love Him. But just the fact that he did this to me right aftr all we done and all he said... im hurting everyday. I've cried every single day. I don't know why he would do this to me..

He's so fn weird because aftr a week of ignoring me once again he invited me to his house. There wasn't any sex but everything else. He made the move. I wasn't going to touch him or anything.. I'm so confused! Its like he uses me... what should I do? Does he love me and just testing me or what? I just don't know anymore.

Wow, I have been a fool for love before, and it sucks, but you have to know he didn't use you. You let him use you. Yep that's a fool for love all right. What helped me, stop being a fool for love? Leaving that person alone, and not putting up with any more crap!!

No ifs, ands, or butts!! That will suck to, but beats being used.

I guess your right. Its harder than it looks to do that... thank you though

He isn't ready for a relationship. Apparently he thought he could, but for whatever reason he couldn't go through with it. So its time for you to face facts and move on with your life. Stop forcing yourself on him for a romantic relationship when all you are apparently ever going to get is acquaintance type friendship.

I know you want more, but that just isn't going to happen, so get on with your life. Stop dwelling on him. Get out with some girlfriends, meet some people, go have fun. DO NOT bring him along, or go to a place he will be or even talk about him. It time for you to stop doing all the chasing sit back, if he want to continue a friendship of sorts let him contact you.

Take care

Thanks, that is definitely what I will be trying to do

Okay so if you know my story from the previous question, you'll understand this better... we never talk anymore.. and sometimes he would try and talk to me at church. After all that bull that went down the past two months, in February he started dating someone else... u just don't do that... anyway, we cut off all contact and haven't spoke in 1 month... it still hurts but I'm getting strong. I keep having these emotional breakdowns in class at school<so stupid... but here's the thing... at church and at school I would catch him looking at me a lot... and once just once he texted me.. nice things too but I just want to know... what can this mean?

TO UNDERSTAND THIS STORY READ MY FIRST QUESTION.lately we haven't been talking and he started dating a new girl right after... that didn't last long and she broke up with him. I asked him in February why can we be just talking like friends and he said he had too much to do. Oh so that's why you dated her? Its just messd up. Anyway... we haven't talked in 1 month and he tries to at church but I just can't look at him and talk to him without feeling hurt still so I give off bad vibes but not on purpose. Then awhile after he last talked to me at church, he ended up never talking to me again.. but here's the thing... I frequently catch him looking at me at church and at school.. keeping an eye on me and we meet eye to eye sometimes and look away... what could this possibly mean? I'm not sure if its good or bad but I'm not going to get no hopes up.

Moved to where they belong,

Don't start a new question, these are not blogs, no one "KNOWS" your old post unless you either link to it, copy it, or add your new info with the old post

Time to put this to bed,he's not going to turn into Prince charming just because you want him to.

Move on,be with friends-go out and have fun and meet new people.

Don't make yourself miserable over this person any longer-he isn't worth it.