I have been with this girl for a little over a year when things started to go sour. We had been really good friends before. But a few days after Christmas we went on a break. We decided to stay exclusive. At first I realized how much I love her and missed and what I did wrong and tried to get her back but she wouldn't want to see me, saying if we hung out wed just end up giving in and getting back together this went on for a month with me trying to get her back and her pushing me away. When we finally had a talk and she explained that at first the break was for her to get some space and go out with her friends but then stuff starting going wrong at home as her mom was kicking her out and she has to move back with her dad which isn't much better. She told me I don't have to wait but she's not looking for a relationship right now which is why she can't be with me she says she missed me and stuff and still loves me but can't have me around right now. We decided to keep it exclusive still but I would "disapear and actually give her space this time around. We went almost a week with out talking when she hit me up and we kind of started talking more and I thought she might warm up to me. But then when the weekend came she got cold again. When I asked her yesturday what she was going tonight she asked me what happened to disapearing? I'm really confused she seems to still care about me but doesn't want to see me. She goes out to shows with her friends and is in a band and I know she's busy with work school and the drama of moving out. But does that really mean I have to disappear? How do you love someone and tell them to just go away? But if she doesn't care then why be exclusive or even talk to me why for me to wait and suffer?

All she's telling you is true.

She doesn't want a relationship with you.

Sorry. That's how it goes. She's told you every day until Sunday.

Get it now?

As much as you want otherwise, you got to take this, suck it up & move on.

Join the millions who got dumped.

Only one thing to do. Never talk to her again.

And rock it. NC bud.

Don't try & get her back. There's others out there.

Be free. You have a new lease on life. No reason trying for a girl that doesn't want what you want.

I have never heard of breaking up but staying exclusive, and its not something I would agree to at all.

Sounds to me like you got dumped, and where given a lot of BS excuses.

Disappearing sounds like a good idea though, and that means ignoring her calls, and not get drawn into any more confusion.

I agree with everyone else. 99% of the time, break is short for break-up.