I lived in Maryland, and my husband has put me out of the house. I thought that we were going to visit friends and family in Mississippi for christmas, which we did. Well, while we were there, he got up and stated he didn't want to be married anymore and left me there in Mississippi. I lost my job due to this in Maryland due to not having the financial funds to getting back and my family was afraid for me because my husband's strange behavior. He took all my things from the house and brought them to me without giving us a fair chance of understanding what was wrong. I love my husband, but does he have the rights to do this. Can I go back home?

... I love my husband, but does he have the rights to do this. Can I go back home?

Probably not if you get a divorce attorney and get a temporary divorce or separation order.

- And I would NOT attempt to re-enter the house unless/until an Attorney advises you it is safe to do so.

- And I would NOT attempt to re-enter the house unless/until an Attorney advises you it is safe to do so.

Yes, thanks Judy. When I wrote "probably not", I was referring to the question "does he have the rights to do this" and not the second part of her question"Can I go back home".

I googled "Maryland divorce" and got a number of links Gator should check, including attorneys, forms, etc. One of the forms, a divorce complaint, specifically includes a request for the right to possess the family home.

I understood what you meant and it seemed pretty clear but I wanted to make CERTAIN OP understood. (Out of greenies)

If the home owned or rented, if owned, whose names are on the deed.

No he can not legally just "set you out of the house" but at this point you stayed away so long that it would appear to be a seperatation. Had you went back the day after he left or before he brouht you all of your things.

You do need to file for divorce ( and if there are kids, child support)

It seems to me that you waited too long to take action. Why did you let it go to the point that you lost your job? There would seem to be lots of options to return to Maryland and continue to go to work.

And yes, legally, he couldn't just throw you out of the marital home. But it seems you did nothing about it. What you should have done, is go back to MD immediately and file for divorce. Its still not too late to file. So you should contact an MD divorce attorney and file immediately.

At that time, I was so emotionally thrown off, and I wasn't financially able to get back on my own, my husband made most of the money. Also, my husband stole my car tag and ran my car battery down, which I didn't find out until later.

Also, my parents were afraid for me considering my husband had physically abused me in the past

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I see a lot of excuses, any or all of which may or may not be true.

You need to get an Attorney. Now!

Like Judy I see a lot of rationalization but a failure to take action. If you parents were afraid for you, then they should have found out for you what you needed to do to protect yourself . Instead, they seem to have given you a place to hide from reality.

And, instead of trying to keep your job so you had some financial resources, you went into a shell and lost that too. And big deal, your battery ran down. That's a simple thing to fix.

I know we are being harsh here but you need a wake up call. Your husband, apparently knew you well enough to know what he could get away with. He probably counted on this whole thing shocking you into inaction. And he probably knew your parents would, mistakenly, try to coddle you in a misguided attempt to protect you, instead of helping you stand on your feet and fight.

And that's what we are trying to do. Spur you to action. Get an attorney, find a neglected wife support group. Stand on your own two fight and go after him for support.

P.S. if you want to post follow-up info or questions, please use the Answer options at the bottom of the page, Not the Comments.

And I will echo Scott - you NEED to protect yourself and you NEED to do it now.

What has happened has happened but who knows what your husband is doing while you are doing nothing?

You've GOT to get going on this.