seekingadvices
Feb 2, 2011, 12:45 PM
About 1year 3months ago, I changed school. I was the "cool" one in the group and got most of the attention. In one of my classes I met this hot girl, who is like the party-type girl and had never settled into a serious relation, just dating. After 3weeks of knowing her I asked her out. After I started hanging out with her during school, most of my friends (especially the girls) started to ignore my girlfriend. They also started to tell me that I should have better. Well of course I saw these "friends" as a threat to my relation, and I stopped hanging with them. Her friends also started to fight with me, and thus she left them. Some of my other friends who also happened to want her, started bull****ting, so left them too. Our only friends were a couple who we started going out with.
Well we were deeply in love, and also started experimenting physically. It all went perfectly until, she had to go abroad to paris (as she had booked it way before we started daating). During the 5 days she went to Paris, I felt very alone, and was so missing her, that one of the momentss I was thinking of how she was having fun, maybe with other guys etc, that I ended masturbating to porn. A month after she came back I told her the truth of what I had donee as I felt very guilty, and of course she was devastated. After about a month or two we were settling back to normal. We did our finals and passed to our second year. During this time, her mom started to get into a depression [reasons unknown]. Anywayz I stayed faithful to her, and we spent the summer at her home, as she was always helped her to clean the house and to tend after her younder brothers of age 7 and 9. After a while, she too started to get into a kind of depression... feeling lonely, friendless, ugly... I tried to help her get out of it but nothing was working. During this time I happened to have a great oppurtinity at my job [i work as a waiter]. Our catering company had a very big event coming of 5000persons and we had to prepare for it. I had a full week of work nearly everyday, one of them I even worked from 8am to 3am! On one of these work days, the group I was with happened wanted to buy food from a local takeaway so we went, and on the way I this girl started talking to me. My girlfriend already knew about her, and she didn't like me talking to her. So I did not tell her, because as I had saw it, it was not worth a fight or an argument over this girl who I felt nothing to. Unfortunately a friend of her saw me with her and of course she told my girlfriend, which got me into a big fight with her. Also during this time, as we were not going out to have fun or anything, I started feeling that I had to go out there and have fun, and as I always have searched for a serious relation, although I used to go to clubs, I had never experienced the party-style making out with many girls and things like that. One Saturday, I decided ihad to choose wheteher to cointinue with her, or go and have fun. I went out that night and had no fun at all clubbing, making me realize how much better I was being in a relation.
A few months later, she also started working too. There was this boy who was always flirting with her and all that. Being supergood at sarcasm, I couldn't help but being jelous at him, and I sarccasmed a lot. Well my girl happenes to be one of these who hate sarcasm, and well I stopped as I didn't want to lose her. Secretly inside I was afraid of losing her. He was the playboy kind, and after a while I noticed that she started looking forward to work, when at the start she just hated going to work and was always telling me that she missed me. Well my girlfriend and him got closer, and I felt more lonely and alone and not supported the more days passed. Of course I wasn't happy every time she went to work as I was afraid to lose her. Well 3weeks ago I asked for a break, because I didn't feel that we were getting anywere, as she was not giving me enough attention. Less than 24hrs later, the same guy asked her out and she accepted. She didn't tell me anything. A day after she wnt out with him, she called me at 2am telling me that I was the only guy she could talk to as she had gotten in a prob with this guy. I listened to her and gave her honest opinions, even though they were against me [as I wanted to get back with her]. I felt heartbroken that she hadd already dated someone else, when I hadn't thought about nothingg but her [all I did was masturbate as I was very tense due to what was happening with her, and because of school tensions as my final exams were getting nearer]! During the next week, she told me that she didn't want this guy anymore and that she wanted to get back with me in due time. I told her I was ready to get back with her, not just right now.We started kissing once again.. and everything seemed to go back to normal. Well the next Friday, as we were still on a break, she went out with her workmates, and kissed him once again. From that next day after, she didn't send me messages at all, and when I talked to her about her change she told me that she's confused. I don't know what to do, I tried going out with some buddies I still had, but that ended in me getting drunkk and throwing up. Also at school now, I am friendless as I gave themm all up for her. I just have a few class mates, but I don't know them enough for me to hang with them, and of course, thanks to my luck, the few girls I wwas still talking to, were in a relation so I could not date someone else while she decided what she wanted. Im so alone and sad right now... I don't want to date other girls, I don't even remember how to flirt! It is so diffult for me right now for me to interact with other girls... making me unable to date others, while she is possibly going out with the work matee.
My second-cousin, told me that I should go oout with others, to make her jelous and make her come back to me if she truly loved me. I also talked to my parents about her, as they were the only persons I could talk to, and they both told me to move on and that if she loves me, she would get back to me.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? HELLPPP
Well we were deeply in love, and also started experimenting physically. It all went perfectly until, she had to go abroad to paris (as she had booked it way before we started daating). During the 5 days she went to Paris, I felt very alone, and was so missing her, that one of the momentss I was thinking of how she was having fun, maybe with other guys etc, that I ended masturbating to porn. A month after she came back I told her the truth of what I had donee as I felt very guilty, and of course she was devastated. After about a month or two we were settling back to normal. We did our finals and passed to our second year. During this time, her mom started to get into a depression [reasons unknown]. Anywayz I stayed faithful to her, and we spent the summer at her home, as she was always helped her to clean the house and to tend after her younder brothers of age 7 and 9. After a while, she too started to get into a kind of depression... feeling lonely, friendless, ugly... I tried to help her get out of it but nothing was working. During this time I happened to have a great oppurtinity at my job [i work as a waiter]. Our catering company had a very big event coming of 5000persons and we had to prepare for it. I had a full week of work nearly everyday, one of them I even worked from 8am to 3am! On one of these work days, the group I was with happened wanted to buy food from a local takeaway so we went, and on the way I this girl started talking to me. My girlfriend already knew about her, and she didn't like me talking to her. So I did not tell her, because as I had saw it, it was not worth a fight or an argument over this girl who I felt nothing to. Unfortunately a friend of her saw me with her and of course she told my girlfriend, which got me into a big fight with her. Also during this time, as we were not going out to have fun or anything, I started feeling that I had to go out there and have fun, and as I always have searched for a serious relation, although I used to go to clubs, I had never experienced the party-style making out with many girls and things like that. One Saturday, I decided ihad to choose wheteher to cointinue with her, or go and have fun. I went out that night and had no fun at all clubbing, making me realize how much better I was being in a relation.
A few months later, she also started working too. There was this boy who was always flirting with her and all that. Being supergood at sarcasm, I couldn't help but being jelous at him, and I sarccasmed a lot. Well my girl happenes to be one of these who hate sarcasm, and well I stopped as I didn't want to lose her. Secretly inside I was afraid of losing her. He was the playboy kind, and after a while I noticed that she started looking forward to work, when at the start she just hated going to work and was always telling me that she missed me. Well my girlfriend and him got closer, and I felt more lonely and alone and not supported the more days passed. Of course I wasn't happy every time she went to work as I was afraid to lose her. Well 3weeks ago I asked for a break, because I didn't feel that we were getting anywere, as she was not giving me enough attention. Less than 24hrs later, the same guy asked her out and she accepted. She didn't tell me anything. A day after she wnt out with him, she called me at 2am telling me that I was the only guy she could talk to as she had gotten in a prob with this guy. I listened to her and gave her honest opinions, even though they were against me [as I wanted to get back with her]. I felt heartbroken that she hadd already dated someone else, when I hadn't thought about nothingg but her [all I did was masturbate as I was very tense due to what was happening with her, and because of school tensions as my final exams were getting nearer]! During the next week, she told me that she didn't want this guy anymore and that she wanted to get back with me in due time. I told her I was ready to get back with her, not just right now.We started kissing once again.. and everything seemed to go back to normal. Well the next Friday, as we were still on a break, she went out with her workmates, and kissed him once again. From that next day after, she didn't send me messages at all, and when I talked to her about her change she told me that she's confused. I don't know what to do, I tried going out with some buddies I still had, but that ended in me getting drunkk and throwing up. Also at school now, I am friendless as I gave themm all up for her. I just have a few class mates, but I don't know them enough for me to hang with them, and of course, thanks to my luck, the few girls I wwas still talking to, were in a relation so I could not date someone else while she decided what she wanted. Im so alone and sad right now... I don't want to date other girls, I don't even remember how to flirt! It is so diffult for me right now for me to interact with other girls... making me unable to date others, while she is possibly going out with the work matee.
My second-cousin, told me that I should go oout with others, to make her jelous and make her come back to me if she truly loved me. I also talked to my parents about her, as they were the only persons I could talk to, and they both told me to move on and that if she loves me, she would get back to me.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? HELLPPP