All the crying g/f threads were merged


We were watching the weather last night and we heard there was a tornado heading towards our state which is Ohio and we live in a trailer and she sat down and started crying because she's scared of tornados and she's afraid she might loose me and her cousin she can't stop thinking about it I keep telling her were not going to get it but she won't listen to me. She's really scared.

Tell her that Tornados often redirect or even disperse before they can cause large amounts of damage to certain areas. Just because the tornado is in the state doesn't mean that it's anywhere near you. Also, if there are severe tornado warnings for you area then there are usually places people can go and wait for the storm to pass without harm.

Me and her have been together for 2 years. We started dating back in September of 2009 and her hero Patrick Swayze died that same time and she's really upset and won't stop crying about it every time we watch one of his movies she cries and yesterday we heard Where Were You [ When the world stopped turning ] by Alan Jackson that song makes her think of him she cries every time she here's it.

If she just cries when she sees or hears him, then I wouldn't try to 'make' her stop.
Sometimes people need that sort of trigger to get emotions out, and it's not a bad thing.
If she seeks him out in order to keep crying, a real obsession, hold her in your arms and ask her to talk about what her feelings are at that moment. Maybe there's some connection in her life. Maybe even she isn't sure what it is, so be patient and just listen.
He touched many many people, men and women, because he wasn't a typical Hollywood glamorous type.

She's crying because she loves me too much and she's scared for me .

Dude, just put your arm around her, and tell her it will be okay, or simply hug her, and say nothing. She is a crier, that's what she does. Can't change it, or stop it!

This was a post about a girlfriend crying over the death of Patrick Swayze. How did it change to tornados without any notation of it being done?

This was a post about a girlfriend crying over the death of Patrick Swayze. How did it change to tornados without any notation of it being done?
She was crying over tornados in the first post.

She can't help it if she's got problems and she loves me a lot and she wants me to be there for her. And I love her.

There was no mention of tornados, no comment by OP under the question (as there is now sometimes and sometimes not) and the Patrick Swayze part was much longer.
I am not imagining this.
This site can be very buggy. It's as bad as Scrabble on Facebook.

Then its simple, just relax and support her.

We were watching the weather last night and we heard there was a tornado heading towards our state which is Ohio and we live in a trailer and she sat down and started crying because she's scared of tornados and she's afraid she might loose me and her cousin she can't stop thinking about it I keep telling her were not gonna get it but she won't listen to me. She's really scared.

Joy, this is the first post on this thread. ;)

Maybe I can help here as this often happens when threads are merged, and edited into one. We seldom go back when there have been changes, like merging threads, and we may well miss a few things.

Last night we were watching a movie called Van Helsing its her favorite movie we've watched it 100 times and she loves it but last night she stared crying.

You don't make her stop crying... Maybe she just really loves the movie and gets emotionally involved? Maybe something else was bothering her during the movie? I'm not understanding what the deal is here. Is she normally emotional? Does she cry a lot for no reason? Only when she watched the movie? Maybe that's just how she expresses emotion?

How abouuuuut you, I don't know, ask her what's wrong? Offer comfort and support to what ever her answer may be. It may be no big deal, or there may be more serious underlying issues that are bothering her. And no matter how small the issue, don't tell her to just suck it up and stop crying unless you want to be swiftly kicked out the door! Small issues perceived to some can be very emotional issues to others. Be sensitive and let the girl cry when she needs to!

Oh yeah she cries all the time .

Well if she cries all the time then something is obviously on her mind a lot. It's time to talk to her and find out what's causing her to be so upset. Sometimes its hard for some to open up to others without some encouragement. However, don't make her feel put on the spot and forced to spit out an answer. It may take time for her to open up, so let her know that you're there for her and support her in the meantime. She will talk when she's ready as long as she knows you're willing to listen.

I'm 17 my girlfriend is 18 I really love her but she's afraid to have sex . I asked her if she wanted to last night but she didn't want to . She's afraid it would hurt her.

She got into a fight with her cousin yesterday morning and then she came home from school crying. I want to make her feel better . She won't tell me what's wrong .

How old are the two of you? Our answers may be different according to your age.

She's 18 and I'm 17.

She's 18 and she crys this often? Are you sure she doesn't have depression?

She does .Me and her live with her cousin cause her parent swere mean to her.

Ladt night I asked my girlfriend to have sex with me and she didn't want too . She said she was scared and it would hurt her. Its our first time she's 18 and I'm 17.

My cousin started crying about her boyfriend . They really love each other but today her boyfriend was mad for some reason he wouldn't hug her or kiss her he wouldn't even hold her when she was feeling sad so I had to go sit beside her and hold her. I want him to stop being mad but I don't know how .

That's normal. Shy personalities usually are afraid. And that's not all. She may be afraid that if she risk giving you her all. You may think different of her. Best thing to do is wait because you are still both young and have so much other things to do and face together. Love grows and when it grows the fear goes. Take your time. You will be glad you did. Let nature take its course.

I made her cry because I yelled and said bad words to her she doesn't like it when I yell at her . I tried to hold her and tell her I was sorry but she pushed me away wouldn't listen. We were talking about her ex boyfriend she didn't want to because he was mean to her.

If she didn't want to talk about her past, why the heck are you yelling at her for it? Obviously she's still emotionally hurt from it, why are you even bringing it up? If she wanted to talk about her past then SHE would bring it up and YOU would listen. You have a lot of apologizing to do. If she hasn't kicked you to the curb yet, that is.

THANKS.
There was nothing about tornadoes.
It was all about Swayze, and I was the first to respond (unlike here).
OP has several posts about crying so someone must have merged and edited Swayze out.
I wish OP would verify this.

In the words of Dave Barry, I Am Not Making This Up.

If you think your mature enough to have a girlfriend then you better learn to act it!! Does it make you feel more like a man to act like mean yelling foul mouth jerk that makes his girlfriend cry. Wow, I bet you just have them lined up to be your girlfriend--NOT!!

You need to back up and take a look at your own behavior. You may not realize it, but you are also being mean to her when you yell at her.

Why in the world do you even want to discuss her ex? That's ridiculous.

She was the one who was talking about him not me because she was thinking about him for some reason .

If it gets to the point that you feel that all you guys do is fight, then its better to end the relationship. Lowering yourself to calling her foul names, screaming,etc are signs that you might want to just move on separately. I know you don't want to hurt her feelings and are frustrated but if you can't stop the fighting you need to make a choice.

Take care

I yelled at her because I didn't want to here about her ex-boyfriend he's gay !

I didn't mean to hurt her. I really do love her and I care about her.