Ok, me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and have been going out since September 2010, this is one of many times she has gotten mad at me, but this one is the most ridiculous.

To start, she texted me today, like every other day saying hi. We gradually build up this conversation and we end up calling each other. We're on the phone for a few minutes with almost nothing to talk about, so I decide to make a harmless joke. To make this joke, I needed her to tell me her best friends last name (which is really hard to remember so that's why I asked her) so I ask her and she says no. I ask her why and she responds, "I've told you her last name a 1000 times before, whats the point now?". So I tell her I'm going to make a funny joke that won't be offensive to her friend. She says no again and gets more irritated.

I ask her what's the big deal about it, she responds, "It is pointless, you can't even say it right, drop the subject, GET OVER IT." I take this as a being very hostile, and I tell her right off the back, "Keanna, I don't know why your so irritated about it, but you know I would never speak to you like that, so why are you speaking to me like this?" then she says, "I really don't care if you speak to me like that, now DROP IT!" I ask one more time, "Keanna, I just wanna make a joke, you don't have to get so irritated about it, I always listen to what you say, now listen to me for once please, it will make you smile and laugh, I promise." She flips out on me, "GET OVER IT, DROP IT" I say, "What??" then she yells "IM DONE BYE" then she hung up on me.

I was so confused, so I left her a voicemail saying I won't mention it tomorrow, she hasn"t responded yet. I know for a fact she isn't mad at her friend, so I don' know what the problem is. She has done this "Drop it" thing before, its really getting on my nerves, please help me.

You're 15. Maturity levels aren't up to par...

Sounds like you ticked her off at some point, and she is really fed up with you. Or just plainly fed up with you.

The thing to look at here is the age of the people involved. At 15 you both have a lot of growing up to do. No need to get overly anxious about a relationship going on 5 months, having hardships at 15 years of age!

This is a good time to learn that when someone says "drop it", you should just drop it.

She didn't want to hear your joke, but instead of saying Okay, and moving on, you persisted, and persisted, and bugged, and bugged. Drop it means drop it, just as much as no means no.

Do you understand that?

I understand, it's just whenever I say "drop it", she persists until she gets an answer! I don't get inexplicably rude and angry about it. I told her that and she said "life ain"t fair, get over it."

Learn to drop it.


it's just whenever I say "drop it", she persists until she gets an answer! I don't get inexplicably rude and angry about it. I told her that and she said "life ain"t fair, get over it."

Or drop her. Then tell her, "life ain"t fair, get over it."

I understand, it's just whenever I say "drop it", she persists until she gets an answer! I don't get inexplicably rude and angry about it. I told her that and she said "life ain"t fair, get over it."

Well, you can either talk to her about it when you're both calm, or handle it like a 15 year old and treat her the same way she treats you. The first option will teach you how to handle a real relationship, the second will teach you nothing.

It's your choice.

Relationships are work. If you want to make them work you have to learn how to talk to each other, you have to be willing to deal with the issues that come up.

You're still young, but you're never too young to learn.

Good luck.

I agree with Alty... discuss it with her when you are both calm. I'd apologize for bugging her about it, but I would also think about how you both can better handle disagreements.

I can see a few possible points: if you have been asking about her friend's name pretty often, she may be feeling a bit insecure about it... wondering why you seem to have such an interest.

As was said, you kept on and on about it when she very clearly said no. It's similar to when a parent has a child who keeps after them for something they want... can I have, can I have, can I have. Eventually the parent either gives in (perhaps as you do when she keeps after you? ) or the parent blows up out of anger and frustration. The point is, no means no. If the joke wasn't a big deal, then why keep pestering her?

Neither of you are communicating well when you just opt out of a conversation or discussion with "drop it". At the very least it would be wise to suggest taking a break until tempers cool and discussing it at a later time if it is truly something that even needs to be dealt with.

Maybe she's going through something right now that adds to her snappiness, but it also seems like she's insecure about your relationship. It's a small thing that girls appreciate- when you can remember personal things like that about her- her best friends last name for instance!
Don't mention it again, but maybe get something nice for her? Something more... personal? Such as something with her birthstone color, to show that you know something so small about her?
Hope I helped
Best of Luck! <3

What was the joke? LOL