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Mizzerica
Jan 30, 2011, 01:17 PM
Hey , so I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend had sex like a week ago and we didn't use a condom and it was for like one minute but he said he didn't *** inside !
And sometimes I look at my belly and I find out that it's getting bigger with the day that passing by PLEASE HELP
Wondergirl
Jan 30, 2011, 01:25 PM
a week ago ... my belly is getting bigger
It's time you read up on sex and birth control and pregnancy (612.6 at your local public library).
Your belly does not start getting bigger until you are maybe four months' along (first baby).
Either you are having hysterics from your wild imagination, or you are getting fat.
Pssst -- Yes, you could be pregnant, but just not showing yet. Use more than one form of birth control at all times, or in nine months someone will be calling you Mommy. If you don't want to risk being a mom, don't have sex.
Alty
Jan 30, 2011, 01:37 PM
There is no way that your belly is growing from pregnancy only a week after having sex.
Don't they teach this in school?
If you're going to have sex at least find out how your body works, how pregnancy works, what to expect, and how pregnancy can occur. Also, no condom, even if he didn't ejaculate, doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. There's plenty of sperm in pre to get the job done.
Mizzerica
Jan 30, 2011, 01:39 PM
Omg , you guys are scaring meee :((
Like I did listen to sex calsses in school but I just don't remember
So are you guys saying that I might be pregnant ?
Wondergirl
Jan 30, 2011, 01:46 PM
omg , you guys are scaring meee :((
like i did listen to sex calsses in school but i just don't remember
so are you guys saying that i might be pregnant ?
You better be scared! And learn from this!
Yes, you could be pregnant, but just not showing yet. Use more than one form of birth control at all times, or in nine months someone will be calling you Mommy. If you don't want to risk being a mom, don't have sex.
P.S. The pull-out method DOES NOT work!!
Alty
Jan 30, 2011, 01:50 PM
omg , you guys are scaring meee :((
like i did listen to sex calsses in school but i just don't remember
so are you guys saying that i might be pregnant ?
If you had sex, then yes, you could be pregnant.
It's way too early to tell, and it would be way, way, way too early for you to be getting a belly because of it.
Every time you have sex, even if you use protection, even if he doesn't ejaculate, there's a chance of pregnancy.
It's time for you to read about sex and pregnancy before you continue having sex. If you're not ready for a baby, then you're not ready for sex.
As for right now, the only thing you can do is wait. If you miss your next period then take a home pregnancy test, use first morning urine for accuracy.
If you get your next period then consider yourself lucky, lesson learned, and don't have sex until you're ready to have a child.
Alty
Jan 30, 2011, 01:53 PM
Use more than one form of birth control at all times, or in nine months someone will be calling you Mommy
I just have to add that even if you use more than one form of birth control, there's still a chance of pregnancy.
There are women on this site that used 3 forms of birth control, all correctly, and still got pregnant.
I have a friend with PCOS, one ovary, using the birth control pill and a condom, and she got pregnant. It happens.
The only way to prevent pregnancy that's 100% effective is to abstain from sex.
Mizzerica
Jan 30, 2011, 01:54 PM
Ok, thank you so much for telling me this .
I did do the pregnancy test but it says positive two times
Wondergirl
Jan 30, 2011, 01:57 PM
False positives -- much too early to test for pregnancy.
Eat correctly, just in case there's a baby on board -- and stop smoking and drinking, if you do either or both.
redhed35
Jan 30, 2011, 01:58 PM
A positive pregnancy test after one week?
That's kind of odd but not unheard of, it could be that your further along then you think you are, either way, make an appoinment with your doctor to get confirmation on your test.
Mizzerica
Jan 30, 2011, 02:02 PM
Yes but I'm scared that the doctor will call my parents ! And my parents will kill me
And I don't drink&smoke !
Alty
Jan 30, 2011, 02:08 PM
Yes but im scared that the doctor will call my parents ! and my parents will kill me
and i don't drink&smoke !
The doctor can't call your parents. You're his patient, he cannot disclose any of your medical information without your permission. If you are pregnant your parents will find out sooner or later anyway.
I too find it odd that you've taken two pregnancy tests and they both came out positive only a week after having sex. That doesn't make any sense to me unless you had sex earlier in the month and you're further along.
Was this the one and only time you've had sex, or did you have sex before this?
Mizzerica
Jan 30, 2011, 02:09 PM
I don't smoke & drink ! But it doesn't matter now
I'm scared that my parents will find out that I'm going to a doctor and he might tell them too
I just don't know what to do
Wondergirl
Jan 30, 2011, 02:14 PM
Go to a doctor your parents don't go to and pay out of pocket, not with insurance.
Your regular doctor has taken an oath regarding confidentiality. Even my own doctor who is also my husband's doctor will not say anything about my husband's health to me unless my husband has given his permission.
Was this your first time having sex?
Alty
Jan 30, 2011, 02:44 PM
Okay, since we're not getting an answer to the "have you had sex before this" question, I'm going to try to answer this in a way that covers both scenarios.
If you had sex a week ago, and this is the one and only time you've had sex, then it's unlikely that you'd test positive on an hpt this soon. That doesn't mean it's impossible, just not common.
If you had sex before this then it's very possible that the two tests you took are accurate and you're pregnant.
False positives do happen, but they're not that common, especially considering that you took two tests and both were positive.
In other words, with two positive tests, I'd guess that you had sex earlier this month, and you're pregnant. I would have this confirmed with a blood test at the doctors office. As we previously mentioned, the doctor cannot call your parents, doctor patient confidentiality applies. But, if you're worried about going to your regular doctor you could go to a walk in clinic, or to planned parenthood.
If these tests are accurate then you're going to be a mom, and hoping it will go away won't work. Soon you will be showing, and your parents will find out. Best to confirm it now, decide what you're going to do about it, which will have to include speaking to your parents about it.
DoulaLC
Jan 30, 2011, 05:38 PM
Did you follow the directions on the tests exactly? Did you read them within the first 3-5 minutes or afterwards?
You can go to a planned parenthood, health department, or pregnancy center, if you don't want to go to your own doctor. Testing at these sites are either free or for a small fee. No one will contact your parents. Or
Try another home test and be sure to follow the directions according to that brand of test.
Odds are small that you are pregnant, IF he was indeed only inside you for a minute and IF he did not ejaculate prior to entering you, but it is possible.
Mizzerica
Feb 1, 2011, 12:34 PM
Ok. So basiclly we had sex so many times
Pretty much 2 times a week
And no it wasn't my first time !
And I should get my period on like 12 days I hope it won't be late
And I'm going to the doctor with him this Friday ! To walk in clinic actually !
Because if I will go to a doctor I will have to pay , and I don't work .
So I'm hoping that the doctor will tell me that I'm not pregnant
And by the way all the other times we did it with a condom !
DoulaLC
Feb 1, 2011, 03:27 PM
I would wait on seeing the doctor until you see whether your period is late. They could do a test earlier, but it may or may not be accurate and if your period doesn't show, you would have to do another one anyway. While some pregnancy tests may pick a pregnancy up several days before a period is due, they are more accurate if a period is already late.
Is this a walk-in doctors' clinic or something like a pregnancy center or planned parenthood? Walk-in clinics usually require you to pay as well or provide insurance. Their main convenience is simply that you do not need an appointment and they are open more hours. Might be a good idea to check before you go in to make sure what may be required if you aren't sure.
Mizzerica
Feb 1, 2011, 10:25 PM
Why thank you that helped me so much!!
I will make sure I will find one
If the pregnancy tests were positive it means you were pregnant before this last encounter without the condom.
Condoms do fail. There is no 100% effective method of birth control aside from abstinence or surgical removal of the uterus or penis.
Looks like it might be time for you to grow up REAL fast.
Mizzerica
Feb 4, 2011, 12:52 AM
So your telling me not to have sex at all ?
That is redicoulesss ! *or however you spell it*
Wondergirl
Feb 4, 2011, 12:58 AM
Whenever you have sex, no matter how much birth control you use, there is a chance in nine months someone will be calling you Mommy.
If you don't have a stable job with good income to buy all the things a baby will need, a place to live, health insurance for the hospital and doctor, your education finished, and the support of your significant other and family, you might want to rethink having sex.
Alty
Feb 4, 2011, 04:17 PM
so your telling me not to have sex at all ?
that is redicoulesss ! *or however you spell it*
If you're not ready to have a child, then yes, that's exactly what we're telling you.
Every time you have sex, even if you use every form of birth control available, there's a chance of you getting pregnant. There are people on this site that used 3 different forms of birth control, all correctly, and still became pregnant. It happens more often then you think.
So, unless you're ready to have a child, and by ready I mean financially secure, able to support yourself and a child, employed, and mature enough, you shouldn't be having sex.
It may be too late already, after all, you've had two positive pregnancy tests, so it seems you may be learning the hard way what the consequences of sex are.
DoulaLC
Feb 4, 2011, 05:01 PM
Why would it be ridiculous? If you know something isn't what you should be doing right now, you simply don't do it.
I know that is a hard concept because many young people, and adults for that matter, never think it will happen to them. It always happens to someone else. But to everyone else, you ARE someone else!
It could be argued that it is ridiculous to have unprotected sex when you know pregnancy could be possible, or to have sex at such a young age if you aren't in a position to deal with the possible consequences.
Question for you: Just say you did tell your boyfriend that you decided not to have sex with him anymore until you are both in positions to be able to support a baby should you happen to accidentally get pregnant. What do you honestly think his response would be?
Try another pregnancy test. This time be absolutely sure that you follow the directions exactly. Use first morning urine, correct amount of urine, and especially read the result in the time frame stated on the test. Reading it later will not be accurate. If you still get a positive, you are pregnant and will need to make some decisions. If you get a negative, see what happens when your period is due... give it a few extra days in case it is just off a bit, then test again if it doesn't show.
If you are not pregnant, and decide to continue having sex, then be smart about your safety and future. Consider using two forms of contraception to at least decrease the odds of an unplanned pregnancy.