I just got out of a relationship about a month ago and I had been pretty upset about it but have been doing a lot better the last week and a half or so. Anyway, my brothers wife's little sister just got out of a relationship about two weeks ago and she told me she wanted me to take her out to get over her ex and to meet some more guys. Long story short, I take her out, she is looking absolutely gorgeous, we end up getting really trashed and sleeping together. I feel kind of bad about the whole thing because it just doesn't seem right. My brother and his wife already know and they think its hilarious. Is this something that I will ever be able to live down? Am I a bad person?

How old is this "little sister" that you speak of? If she's an adult then, strictly speaking, you didn't do anything wrong. Obviously your brother and sister-in-law aren't upset about it. Actually it's possible that she may have been interested in you so she asked you out under the guise of "getting over her ex and meeting new guys." I'm not sure that sleeping together the very first time you were together was a wise move. Both of you are still on the rebound. That's not to say that you couldn't necessarily have a successful relationship with each other or with other people but you've got to give yourselves plenty of time. You're both very vulnerable right now. Take your time, enjoy each other's company and get to know each other. Most importantly of all, have fun. Not in a "naughty", sexual kind of way but in a friendly, light-hearted kind of way.

Im 25 and she is 22. She is totally hot but I have no interest in dating her although I am pretty sure that she would be interested in being with me. I know she wanted to hook up that night. I just want it to go back to us being able to hang out without that being in the back of my head and it not being weird.

Falcons,

Ease up on yourself. No, you are not a bad person at all. Put this behind you (if you can, I know it may be hard if people bring it up, but they really shouldn't). Learn from it though and watch the drinking. Being trashed is no excuse for poor behavior. You still are accountable for your actions.

Go out and as S_Cianci said, have fun. Good healthy fun. Time will take a lot of the weirdness away.

Valuable lesson learned, right?

We all make not so good choices when we are trashed. You are not alone. Chalk it up and let it ride.

Next time don't get trashed before making any sleeping arrangements! Lol.

Seriously, you did not do a bad thing, nor are you weird. Things like that happen. You are both adults and surely consensual, so just move on. If you like her as a person, great. Spending time with her as a friend ? Why not? Or do you think she will see more into that? Lay down some guidelines and go from there and above all, do not beat yourself up over this.

Take care.

Yep it is just another learning experience.

Just be sure to be honest and straight with this girl and I'm sure everything will be fine. You just don't want her sister going from finding it funny to being mad at you because you treated her sister poorly. So the best thing is honesty with a bit of tact!

I like though that you aren't looking at rushing into something else to replace your old relationship. That is a wise move!

Perfect Skell,

Yes be sure to treat the young girl kindly and with respect.

Now go on and have some healthy fun.

Learning keeps us all growing.! :)

Hey guys, well Im feeling a lot better about it! I talked with her about it and we both realized that we were super drunk. The funny thing is that we were going to hide it from my brother and his wife but my brother came into my house that morning to check on us and found us both laying in the bed naked together. I think everyone that is involved is having a good laugh about it although I think it wasn't a smart move. Obviously its nothing to beat myself up over! Lol ( 8