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Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 08:34 AM
Im 7 and I live with my parents, my mom abuses me and always tell me that she don't want me and that she's going to kill me. She always hit me and damage or break some part of me. I want to runaway or move out because I have somewhere to go but I'm confused on how to do it. I always have thoughts of suicide and cut myself numerous amount of times. I just don't want the police and court to get involved, what should I do help me plzzzzzz ='[
88sunflower
Jan 27, 2011, 08:37 AM
Please don't just start a new thread. You can carry on with the other.
I am so sorry for your pain and what you are going through. But why not get the police involved? Do you have relatives or friends you can go to? Personally if this is how she treats you then I would get the police involved.
Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 08:49 AM
I don't want to get the police involved because then id have to go to a foster home or somewhere I don't want to be, on top of that she probably will get in much trouble and I would feel bad as much as I don't like what I'm going through
88sunflower
Jan 27, 2011, 08:56 AM
But foster homes aren't as bad as they appear. I know many people here that open there homes and have for years. They love those children and treat them as they were one of there own.
Where is your father?
Have you been to the hospital? Does your school question the bruises?
88sunflower
Jan 27, 2011, 08:57 AM
You need to get away from this environment for sure. But you have to do it safely and in a way your able to be secure.
Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 09:09 AM
my father is here also but its not much he can do, but when he leaves it becomes even worst she threatens me a lot and yes I've been to the hospital the last time for a broken finger but to stay out of trouble I lied about how it happened and I don't go to school when the bruises are there. My boyfriend don't really know about what's happening because I never really told him, all he knows is that I don't really like her. I can live with him because his family don't mind because id rather be there around people I know than in a foster home =[
Fr_Chuck
Jan 27, 2011, 09:21 AM
If you don't want to do it without the police or courts, no,
If you just leave they can call the police ON YOU,
If you want you call and report the abuse,
88sunflower
Jan 27, 2011, 09:24 AM
I know you hate to but you really need to talk with someone about this. You do not deserve this no matter what she tells you. She does not deserve to get away with this either. Authorities need to know. Not to mention possibly counseling for yourself. This can't be easy and you need to truly know its not because of you or anything your doing. She sounds like a sick person and you need to get help now.
Why can't you tell your father? Why can't he help you move or why the heck doesn't he take you and leave together?
Do you have other siblings she is also treating like this?
Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 10:37 AM
@Fr_chuck --- I just want to leave where she can't find me, how would the police even find me. If I don't leave I might end up harmng myself
this8384
Jan 27, 2011, 10:44 AM
There are a plethora of issues with this story, the first of which is that you are a minor. You cannot just up and leave.
If your mother is threatening to kill you, I'm quite shocked that your primary concern is that she'll "get into trouble" if you call the police. Either you're genuinely scared for your life and will call them, or this is getting blown out of proportion. You say you don't want to go to a foster home; if things were really this bad, I'd want to go somewhere - ANYWHERE - that my mother was not.
You mention your father is "around" - are your parents married, divorced, separated? Why can you not live with your father? Why is your father not protecting you from this abuse?
Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 10:54 AM
@88sunflower- the thing about this is that I'm not even a bad or wild kind of girl, I get good grades, I go to school I'm not pregnant, NOTHING, I Don't do nothing crazy. On top of all that I'm very quiet and yes I do have other siblings but she don't treat them like that. My brother is 25 and he don't live here, he can't staand her and my sister is 10 and my mom treat her like a princess, she never ever hit her. What am I doing wrong I don't even know. My mom and dad are married but you'll never be able to tell. Im confused, sooooo confused
Bbeauty17
Jan 27, 2011, 11:10 AM
@this8384- I don't know what exactly to do, I don't want her to get in trouble but I want to leave... I sometimes thinks she's bipolar but I don't know. On top of this she lacks an good education so most of her bills and checks I write them and mail them back in. I also have to read most of her letters to her and all of that. I follo her to business places and I feel horrible knowing that I do all this for her and she treats me like this
this8384
Jan 27, 2011, 11:23 AM
@this8384- I dont know what exactly to do, I dont want her to get in trouble but i want to leave...I sometimes thinks shes bipolar but idk. On top of this she lacks an good education so most of her bills and checks i write them and mail them back in. I also have to read most of her letters to her and all of that. I follo her to business places anbd i feel horrible knowing that i do all this for her and she treats me like this
Back to the same question I posed before: do you genuinely feel that your life and/or well-being is in danger by being around her? If the answer is yes, then you need to call the police. If you are fearful for your safety, then your first instinct would be to protect yourself - not worry about what will happen to her if you call.
Your mother is not your responsibility - your father needs to stop avoiding his wife and children and own up to his responsibility as a father and husband.
Bbeauty17
Jan 28, 2011, 02:35 PM
Yeah I understand, but at the same time I'm afraid of what might happen tu me, what if I get sent somewhere where I'm not comfortable. Even though I'm not comfortable here even more. Im afraid and just feel as if she'll come after me anytime.