My mother has been with this man for over twenty years. He is the topic on every subject. How great he is. The problem I have is this has affected me and my mom being close. I use to think she would turn around and leave him but she hasn't. And now when I asked her for a stupid loan to get a home until I get my settlement money in 90 days she won't do it after she said she would and after he butted his nose in. She got upset and told me she wouldn't do it. Should I eliminate her from my life? I can't stand going through life as it is knowing that she loves and puts a man before me. I don't feel love from her at all. The way she looks at me and all. I don't see the love anymore. One more upsetting thing was she included him in the will. That if she ever got sick he would make the life decisions for her. I am her only daughter living now. I have always tried to be miss perfecto for her. I think this was so wrong for her to give him that power over me. She knew that would hurt me also and she didn't care. Always her annoying me all my life with telling me you never finish anything and you can't have this or that and that I am living beyond my means. Any ideas or dreams she always have crushed them to the ground for me. This would be my first home and it was happy until she heard and said she would do this for me and now she is making it like it's a disaster and like she is going to be living in the house. I want this home and now I got to go with a hard money loan because she is having that idiot over here telling her not to help me with this loan that I know I can repay. No problem there. But when I asked her. She told me not to tell her boyfriend or he would leave her. What kind of **** is that. And then he must of told her all night to do it after she told me she would and then she came back all hateful and cussing at me on the phone. Saying I'm making a mistake to buy a home. Buying your first home should be a good thing/ But not according to her boyfriend. He was in the background trying to savotage my offers with offer them less and less for the home. It's none of his damm business. Or is it. He never would marry my mom. And he lives in her home. Once when I needed a home. She never offered a room in her four bedroom home to me. I remember those times. If I had a four bedroom home. I would offer her a room in it. Just my good nature I guess. Am I being too hard. What would you do if this were you in my shoes?