My husband and his 2nd cousin (female) are having lunch a few times a week, like girlfriend do. This is going on for a few months now, she ignores me and excludes me from all there "fun". They Text and talk on the phone and she even asked my husband to meet her at a store to go shopping. Our families don't even get together just them. I know there is nothing sexual but I think she is over steping her boundries and trying to be buddies with him and it is making me mad. I told my husband that I am uncomfortable with the lunches and she is using him for her own emotional reason. Some what like having an emotional fling with him. It really bothered me and I feel like now he sees her but doesn't tell me when they talk or go out to lunch, so now I am really bothered. I am justified to want to stop the lunches and tell her that we should all get together as couples? She is married too. She seems to me that she really is all about herself and having "fun" since she doesn't work and my husband is self employed she he can do what he wants during the day. Also that have not been close all their lives but it seems to be that he is her missing link in life. Since it has seem to have gotten worse I did end up calling her and letting her know that I don't want her to go each lunch with him anymore. She had no idea I felt this way and she is so angry at me I feel bad but this was really disrupting my life, I had to say something. I may have mad things much worse. Help

I don't know what elese you could have done to get your point across if you couldn't get your point across with your husband. I don't think you did anything wrong, and she was over-stepping boundaries. So she is angry with you, she will get over it.

If she brings it up, calls you, just stick to your guns and re-iterate that you don't want it to continue.

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Thank you so much, I just wanted to make sure I wasn't the one being a jealous fool, because my husband does consider her a friend. I will stick to my guns. Thank you.