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shadoushka
Jan 25, 2011, 02:51 PM
I've been married for past 7 years and have a 5 year old daughter.
My daughter loves her Father, she is very clever and knows more than she should for her age.
In all of my marriage, I've been supporting my family all this time beside He has been living in my house without paying anything for past years.
I have pushed him to work last year and now that he is working, he pays little as possible for expense.
Beside he drinks every night, he is shy but as soon as he drinks he becomes a happy person and talks a lot.
I can't take this life anymore, when he is sober never talks.
It is almost two years that we don't have no sex at all. I hate to have sex with silly drunk guy, for me it is a big turn off, I told him many times but he doesn't give a damn about my feelings.
I have seen him watching porno and he does masturbating which it really hurts me even more.


I work hard and take care of myself, I am 11 years younger than him, I exercise and love to be in shape and attractive, love cooking, love my daughter. My house is clean and very organised.
He completely takes me for granted.
I feel so bad for letting him to use me all this years, he has never appreciated what I've done for this life. He thinks it is my responsibility. I feel so stupid for letting him treat me like this way.
In my dreams love to kick his *** and throw him out of my life.
All my love has gone for him. I am a very strong person but my weakness is only my daughter and the love he has for him especially when I see how happy she is when playing with the happy drunk Dad whom makes fool of himself to make her laugh.
I am sick and tired making his life comfortable and not received any attention.
I keep praying for a day that God gives me the strength to except my life the way it is or change oneway or another.
Can anyone give me some advice please?
Thank you

JudyKayTee
Jan 25, 2011, 07:51 PM
My concern is that drinking too much will be normal for your daughter. Children of alcoholics marry alcoholics.

Go for counselling by yourself OR drag him to counselling. This is a disease and unless you know what you are dealing with, are experienced, you cannot "fix" him by yourself.

You have a life - go out and find it if you cannot live in this situation any longer.