Hi I really need some advice now as I am very confused about the situation I am in.last year in February my husband walked out on me and started a relationship with someone else straight away.I was alone and didn't expect help especially not from where I got it,his best friend (also best man at our wedding).his best friend immediately started to help me,he came round and cleaned up,encouraged me to go to the gym and c my friends and he would come and cook t and keep me company.he did still try and remain friends with my husband at the same time.

However after about 2 weeks of my husband leaving me I started sleeping with his friend,initially I was doing it in my mind to get back at my husband however it soon became more than that I really liked him,he was always saying that we were just friends nothing more but I knew different. This friend eventually moved in with me into my spare room and the sex continued until he started to back off and a week or so later had a girlfriend,needless to say we didn't get along and the relationship between them didn't last.(before his girlfriend we had been sleeping together for about 6 months).after his split with his girlfriend he was distant for bowt 2 months however one night he got drunk and had a heart to heart with me. He told me he had initially backed off from me because he was getting feelings for me and he was falling in love with me and if something was to happen between us and it didn't work out he couldn't take it.he also told me he missed messing around with me and he told me that he kept telling me to get together with some one but he never actually wanted me to.we ended up in bed together again. And again we started to mess around,he even went on holiday and came back and his friend came to stay for a while and we even slept together whilst his friend was asleep in the other room.however when his friend left he was didtant with me again and again he went on holiday to the same place with the same people but now he has backed off all together again.

I have asked him if he has a girlfriend and he said no and also I drop hints which he ignores, what does he want?If I try and get with someone else will he be all over me again? I'm confused, sorry it is so long just really need advice.
Thank you for taking your time to read this, fenech x

While I understand being hurt by your husband having sex with his friend, is not your path to happiness. Get a divorce, and get healthy, so you can have healthy relationships, and not the sex on demand that you are doing now.

Thank you for your answer,I understand what your saying to me.however iwould like to be in a proper relationship with my friend if he was up for that but from his behaviour I am confused as to what he wants? Thank you again for both the time you took to read my post and also your reply. fenech x

You don't get a proper relationship just by having sex, and he obviously just has you as a willing option, so why are you making him a priority??

How do you have a proper relationship when you have a husband, whether he is there or not?? No where do you mention divorce, what's up with that??

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Don't bring in others to get revenge. Or cause you "need" a man.
Don't create more drama.

We all have to be responsible for our own actions. Don't bring others in as a rebound. That's unfair & cruel.

I advise you to get things settled with a divorce. And stop sleeping with & being friends with pal.

Find other "friends"

Get away from them.

He has what he wants, a friend with benefits, and the freedom to do as he pleases. What he doesn't want is a proper relationship with you as you are a married woman, to his friend no less.

There can be no proper relationship, because its already just sex with a friend, and that is good enough for him.