jadezhang
Jan 22, 2011, 09:01 AM
Hi everyone,
I am stuck. I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now. I still loves him very much, but I know that (because he has said) he doesn't love me the same way I love him. He still loves me, but just not the in the same way. It's been a really hard fact to swallow, and it has affected me a great deal. So I pushed for a decision, and we effectively broke up over the phone. Before this happened, we have been arguing for a while, nearly 6 months, and even the smallest things can turn into huge arguments.
So now, after the break up phone call, he keep texting me to ask if I am OK. I haven't replied until today when he said "are you still not speaking to me?". I said what do you want to talk about? Then he just said that he wants to check if I am OK.
What should I do? I feel like I need proper closure of some sort. I still have heaps of things at his place, and I want to give his stuff back as well. But deep down, I still have a slim hope that maybe he has realised how much he loves me and wants to work things out together.
I call this time the "during" of a break up, where you are not properly broken off, but then one person might be hoping for a different ending to the story. That person is me at the moment, but I don't if that's the right thing for me. After all, 3 years, we still live in our own places, he still hasn't travelled to meet my parents in another country. He doesn't hang out with my friends or ask me to hang out with his, and every time we argue, he always points the finger at me.
Am I stupid to even hope things to work out?
Arrrr...
I am stuck. I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now. I still loves him very much, but I know that (because he has said) he doesn't love me the same way I love him. He still loves me, but just not the in the same way. It's been a really hard fact to swallow, and it has affected me a great deal. So I pushed for a decision, and we effectively broke up over the phone. Before this happened, we have been arguing for a while, nearly 6 months, and even the smallest things can turn into huge arguments.
So now, after the break up phone call, he keep texting me to ask if I am OK. I haven't replied until today when he said "are you still not speaking to me?". I said what do you want to talk about? Then he just said that he wants to check if I am OK.
What should I do? I feel like I need proper closure of some sort. I still have heaps of things at his place, and I want to give his stuff back as well. But deep down, I still have a slim hope that maybe he has realised how much he loves me and wants to work things out together.
I call this time the "during" of a break up, where you are not properly broken off, but then one person might be hoping for a different ending to the story. That person is me at the moment, but I don't if that's the right thing for me. After all, 3 years, we still live in our own places, he still hasn't travelled to meet my parents in another country. He doesn't hang out with my friends or ask me to hang out with his, and every time we argue, he always points the finger at me.
Am I stupid to even hope things to work out?
Arrrr...