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anonymous97
Jan 22, 2011, 07:19 AM
My boyfriend and his best friend say that I should do something with my boyfriend I'm not ready and I'm a virgin and my boyfriend is the opposite I'm 13 and he's 15 we've been together for a week I don't want to leave him but its just pissing me off what should I do?

talaniman
Jan 22, 2011, 08:25 AM
Tell him to back off or you will leave. If he threatens to leave if you won't give him what he wants let him.

To be honest if that's what he wants after only a week, that probably all he wants, so maybe you should dump him any way. Him and his friend.

DoulaLC
Jan 22, 2011, 08:41 AM
Drop him fast! Do it today!

He doesn't care about you... he is only thinking of what he wants. IF he really cared about you, he wouldn't be trying to pressure you to do something you don't want to... in a week no less! Do you really want him sharing all of this with his friends? Do not be fooled by any promises that he loves you, or will stay with you, or comments that if you loved him you would do this.

Put him to the test... tell him no, that you aren't going to have sex with him or do anything else sexual and see how long he sticks around. He will move on to find some girl who will be stupid enough to give him what he wants.

There are boys out there who won't try to talk you into doing things you don't want to. This guy is not worth your time.

MrsLB
Feb 2, 2011, 03:54 PM
15 year old guys should not be trying to have sex with a 13 year old. Honestly he kind of sounds like a creep. I would definitely stick to your guns, tell him you're not ready. Then when someday (hopefully several years from now) you are ready, it will be much better.

Alty
Feb 2, 2011, 04:02 PM
Tell him that he'll go to jail if you two have sex, because you're underage. Actually, so is he, but as the older of the two of you, he'll be responsible.

You've been together for a week. That's nothing. You don't want to have sex, so tell him to find someone else if that's all he's after.

This is a clear sign that he's only after one thing. How dare he pressure you into something that's not only illegal, but something you're not ready for?

Sweetie, you are in control of your body. Don't let anyone ever take that away from you. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. If he walks away, he's not worth it any way. Right?

ScottGem
Feb 2, 2011, 04:09 PM
I'm going to add my voice to the dump him crowd. Sex is not something you do for recreation. Sex is something you share with someone you are deeply committed to. You cannot be deeply committed to this punk after a week. If he's 15 and already lost his virginity then that's all he's after. You will lose him either way, because once you give in, he'll have little use for you. So if you are going to lose him anyway, do it on YOUR terms, not his.

And one other point about how much of a jerk he is. How dare he discuss your intimate matters with his friend! That is so low class and crass.

At 13 you shouldn't be dating one on one anyway. Group dating is OK, but you are too young for one on one dating. And you are WAY to young for sexual activity. Stick by your guns, you will feel better about yourself if you do!

cdad
Feb 2, 2011, 05:06 PM
You could always say you been thinking about it. And when he responds "oh yeah ???" you can say sure have. Then ask him how much child support he can afford to give you at this time. Lol

I bet he runs as fast as he can.