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maciel.nile
Jan 20, 2011, 03:08 PM
Well I met this guy (lemon) he is super cute but short. I didn't really like the fact he was short but I still flirted with him. I saw him at summer school an then he moved into my school I tried to say was up to him but he rejected me. Some days passed an he asked for my number an we started talking an texting.we hung out a couple of times and he seemed nice but once I had sex with him he would not call me as before or text me. When he sees me at school he acts mean. I've told him I liked him but he said he's not boyfriend material. What does he want from me? What does this mean?

Wondergirl
Jan 20, 2011, 03:17 PM
You gave away the farm. There's nothing else he wants from you now. There's no reason for him to stick around.

Having sex right away is NOT how to build a relationship.

maciel.nile
Jan 20, 2011, 03:29 PM
I know it was fast but since he acted nice with me I thought that would make him happy and we would be together but I guees not:(

Wondergirl
Jan 20, 2011, 03:34 PM
So now what?

maciel.nile
Jan 20, 2011, 03:37 PM
I know what I have to do but its really hard because every time I stop talking to him he comes back.

Wondergirl
Jan 20, 2011, 03:57 PM
What do you "know" you have to do?

Maybe he'll come back for real. Then you'll tell him what you did with his baby?

Imperfection
Jan 20, 2011, 09:24 PM
Wondergirl, I don't think she is pregnant, but the question on what to do still stands & I am also wondering what you will do now, or if he comes back

Fr_Chuck
Jan 20, 2011, 09:42 PM
I hope she learns a lesson, that having sex is not something you do in hopes they stay with you, and that many many guys will tell you anything you want to hear to have sex but never follow though on promises.

maciel.nile
Jan 22, 2011, 04:37 PM
Wondergirl I'm not pregnant... and you guys made me realize he's a jerk.. he just waned to have a good time nothing serious but I guess I thought if I had sex with him he would want to stay with me. THANKS TO ALL YOU FRIENDS I REALIZED THE MISTAKE I MADE.. THANKS

DoulaLC
Jan 22, 2011, 07:43 PM
maciel.nile... look at it as a lesson learned.

You do not have sex with a boy because he is nice and you want to make him happy or to get him to stay with you.

Sadly some guys will use exactly that tactic. They will try and guilt you into having sex with them or threaten to leave you if you don't, and too many girls want a guy to like them so much that they fall for it.
Guys like that don't really stick around and the girls are left feeling badly about themselves, hurt, and sometimes pregnant.

The point is, if you learn from this, you will not make the same mistake again. You will now be able to spot that sort of guy very quickly and avoid him.

maciel.nile
Jan 23, 2011, 06:57 PM
DoulaLc,s I did learn and I understand perfectly want your telling me but its hard to avoid him when we see each other everyday an what if he kallas me or tries to talk to me??

jmjoseph
Jan 23, 2011, 07:04 PM
The true measurement of a man has nothing to do with height.

He's failed the real test. Learn from your mistakes, and carry on.