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hblife101
Jan 20, 2011, 01:50 AM
My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years. This past August she decided to break up with me and starting seeing a guy that started to contact her again that she used to work with. We were broken up for over a month and that whole time we were still seeing each other but then on the weekends she would go over to this guys house and stay the night. She confessed to have been intiment with him but said she never slept with him. During our break up she made up a lie every time she would hang out with the guy, telling me she was doing something with her girlfriend or family when she was with him. We ended up getting back together two weeks before christmas. She still talks to him on a regular basis and they see each other. I go to school about an hour away from her so since I've been back to school its been really tough on me knowing she still talks to him. I see her a couple days a week and the rest I am at school. We had a conversation before school about her talking to him because I was tired of her getting texts from him. She told me she wouldn't talk to him anymore but she's still getting texts from him. I made a big mistake the other day and checked her email and saw that they were planning on going on a hike together. I feel like crap for doing it but I'm glad I found it. I want to confront her about everything but I don't know how to do it or if its even worth it. Any help would be awesome!

adviceishere
Jan 20, 2011, 10:24 AM
I know 6 years is a long time but I think this ship has sailed, she's playing you like a good one, my advice to you is to tell her to sling her hook! There are plenty of honest girls out there that will be true to you until the bitter end, don't waste your time with her when you can be out enjoying yourself, focusing on your school work and getting to know people. Would'nt it be nice not to have so much anxiety about this reltionship? Well it can happen and you should start by telling her its over and sticking to it. :)

talaniman
Jan 20, 2011, 10:28 AM
Its simple, you let go of your childhood girl friend, and do your own adult thing, and let her wonder why you have disappeared from her life suddenly, and refuse to speak to her.

That would be fair for someone who lies, and cheats on you, not once but is still doing it, don't you think?

adviceishere
Jan 20, 2011, 10:34 AM
LOL I wish I knew her so I could see how confused she will be! ;)

Devorameira
Jan 20, 2011, 12:31 PM
She knows that it bothers you, but obviously doesn't care enough to stop.

It's definitely time to move on without her. Why not change your number, go no contact, and start living life without her? It'll hurt for awhile, but you'll be better off down the road.