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emma_89
Jan 17, 2011, 11:37 PM
I have never had an orgasm, ever. I have been sexually active with my partner for a year now and I swear I have tried everything. I have discussed this with my partner and shown my concern multiple times, and while he may have tried a little harder for maybe the next few times he has just gone back to what feels best for him. The sex is still enjoyable even though I don't feel anything, I seem to enjoy the connection more than anything else but after such a long time trying I'm getting bored of the whole thing. It rarely happens but even when there is foreplay I don't feel a huge difference and I am beginning to worry that I am the problem. I'm not saying that I need to achieve orgasm every time, but just once would be nice. I want to know how I can get my man to put some effort in and make the experience enjoyable for me.

tickle
Jan 18, 2011, 04:55 AM
If he is not interested in making intimacy enjoyable for you, and makes it all him, then there is no way you can change that. I suggest you get some toys and try that approach. It may work.

Tick

Synnen
Jan 18, 2011, 06:44 AM
Can you give YOURSELF an orgasm? If so, you need to show him how.

If NOT--you need to figure that out first. Hard to criticize someone for not making you feel good when YOU don't even know what makes you feel good--and it's YOUR body!