I'm in love with a guy for years and we were planning to get married but my family didn't agree because he is from different nationality... we talk with them a lot but my father didn't change his decision and I can't get married without his approval

The person I love he start getting irriated he say that he want to get married also and have kids because he is getting old and if there is no hope he will go and ask his family to find a bride for him...

After few weeks I start to notice someone at work he is so quite and decent... my heart beat so fast whenever he pass by my cubicals.. we never have a full converstation is all about short questions about work... then a girl show up and she start getting close to him and invite him out all the time and I think he is responding... I felt so bad that I didn't have the same courage to talk to him.. and felt bad more that I know this girl go out with so many other guys...

Now my life is a big mess... I don't feel like I want to talk to my father about the first guy again espcailly he doesn't support me emotionally like before... and the second guy I think he start to be interested on the other girl... I feel like a loser :(

Okay hmm first about the first guy, since it involves parental matter and your parents heavily cannot accept the idea of you being together with this guy then I guess the best thing you can do is to convince your parents about the guy more, however one point I want to tell you is that this guy doesn't want you more than you want him, I can say that because I see that you're the only one who thinking and try to resolve the idea of getting together with this guy while this guy instead of coping with you solving the problem together he sets his eyes on another woman because he thinks no chance of being together with you. So obviously in his heart he already 'half giving up' about you, I suggest you move on and don't hope more for this guy, pretty sorry to tell you about this but it is better to move on.

As for the second guy, if you really plan to be able to with him and you know he is decent and a good man who really looking for long term and committed relationship then go for him, as for how he interested with another girl?well take it as a healthy competition, don't lose to the girl he interested with right now and chase him , however on the other hand I noticed that somehow you also haven't recovered from the wound you got with the first guy so you must really careful about what you doing right now because you probably might be jumping in a rebound relationship with the second guy. First you must answer the question in yourself, do you really like this second guy or you just looking for a replacement because oof what you suffering from the first guy?

Hi.. is getting complicated, I start to try to give up about the first guy... sometimes I feel like my tears is sufocating me...

The other guy he is nice with me but I can't tell if he is interested or not (How I can know without being so despaired?).. the girl try to avoid making me going out with them.. I start to feel unwanted and unhappy...

I think you need to let both men go and find someone who is better suited for you and who is available and will hopefully meet with parental approval.

I wonder if you are more in love with love and the idea of being in a relationship than you are with the first man.

The second man is dating someone else and is unavailable to be in a relationship with you. Going out with them when you have feelings (or think you do) for him is not a good idea. You do not belong in their relationship.

You aren't unwanted. You just haven't found the person who is right for you.