This is kind of a continuation of another thread of mine. It's the same girl. But now it's a different situation. I'll make a long story short but I kind of have to tell it all over again for those who have not read.

Last few months I became very close with this girl, it was like we were soulmates, although we had different personalities we had many things in common which made our friendship very interesting.

With time my feelings towards her started to grow and I was certain she felt the same way, everybody thought we were dating (although she always replied saying we were just friends). One day we arranged to meet in my house, I was going to say how I feel there, and one day earlier she told me she was dating. I was devastated I couldn't see her anymore, until I knew she was breaking up with the guy, I thought: why not give another go right?

So again I became her puppet, suddenly I realized that she was just using me for attention and for help at school(I thought that way) because nobody noticed her and stuff so I had to be the one telling her how pretty she was. When I expressed my feelings (again) she told me we were just friends and we would never be anything else. Again.. heartbreak.

So we were studying in the same class, but we graduated (terrible event, had to see her everywhere and pretend it was allright) now we don't see each other anymore, I blocked and deleted her from MSN. I still have her on Facebook because she has photos of me in her albuns (sigh).

A few days ago she sent me a message on Facebook like this: "where have you been? I miss you" and I just replied "im busy" (like a boss right)
Then she replied: "all right, when you remember you have friends, talk to me"

So I thought it was over right there, but then it was my birthday couple days ago and she sent me another message wishing a happy birthday, saying she misses her best friend (now I'm not certain she liked me for school work).

The main problem there is that she made me look like a fool, I crawled for her, and she liked it, she couldn't leave me alone even though she knows how I feel. So what would you guys do? Leave this to rest or unblock her from MSN? If I do so, I'll tell her everything I'm feeling, like "I blocked you because our time together did not end as I expected so I have no reasons to talk to you since you just used me"

But did she really use you or do you feel used because you didn't get the outcome you expect or wanted? She's still trying to be your friend even though school is over, she was honest with you when you expressed how you felt and made it as clear as day to get her point across even though this may have hurt you it does take a lot of courage to tell someone that likes you that you don't have the same feelings, could it be that your just a bit embarrassed and bitter that she doesn't have the same feelings for you after you opening up to her? She sounds like she's making an effort to be your friend, you seem to only want her as a friend if there's a chance of you getting together but she enjoys your company, I'm sure its very hard to try be just friends with someone that you have feelings for, maybe you could explain that you have these feelings and because she doesn't you would still like to be her friend but in a more distant way? I could be wrong but that just my theory. :)

I say, trust your instincts here.

The history of the 'friendship' was her needs being met, which you fulfilled, despite your feelings for her, which were beyond just a friendship. She made it quite clear that you would never be more to her than a friend.

You did the right thing in realizing that to continue with a friendship, would require you to do all the giving and support, and her to do all the taking, as it had been, over and over again. There was enough history there for you to realize that she was not going to change from friendship to girlfriend with you, and there was enough there for you to know that romance with her was never going to happen.

While it was in her interest to keep you around, it was not in your interest to continue to hope something more would happen.

It's hard to even go from boyfriend/girlfriend to friendship, because the friendship went beyond friendship, and then back again. Most do not regain that relationship.

But, to maintain a friendship, when you know that the feelings you had for her were beyond what she was reciprocating, and then go back now, is not likely to work. I get the impression that you would be setting yourself up for more disappointment, and end up in the same place all over again.

As far as explaining everything to her, if it comes to that, my advice would be to simply say that you had hoped the friendship would have resulted in an actual relationship. And because that will not happen, a friendship would be impossible. Keep it simple, and honest.

I came to the conclusion that it was best to just forget about her definitely and it happened the way which I thought it was the wrong one. I logged in on Facebook today to offer a job opportunity to my former colleagues and saw one reply from her wanting the job and at the end she called me a *****.

I was like : *** *****, it's on. So I unblocked her against my own will just to say 'who the **** you calling a ***** woman", then she replied it was just a joke, I told her I could not give her the job because the times wouldn't match( This is true she has the skills I need but she can't work on my time ). So she said something like: Oh that's too bad. How's your life? I just replied: Pretty good. Then there was nothing.

You see what happened there? Although she would like to talk to me, she wants me to do it, me to ask her stuff, me to take her places so we can sit and stare at each other without nothing happened. So I realized, it was never meant to be, she was never attracted to me but she liked to know somebody was attracted to her, I was showing it the whole time and she just went with it. It's not nice to play with someone feelings like that. So the bottom line is, I unblocked her, but she will never talk to me straight because I won't give an opening , I don't care about her life anymore, and she is realizing that.

I'm not looking for sex guys, I'm old-fashioned I would like a girl to love me, spend time with me, someone I could share everything and she is definitely not the one. Maybe the girl who said something about the ages was right, I am 19 and she is 18. So she is not in the romantic age or something like that right?

So this is the end of this story. Thanks for everyone who posted. I hope you all find love as well. I'm sorry for the giant wall of text and any grammar error since I'm not from the u.s .

**** = wuss.