AsselamuAleikum, DR. ZAKIR
My name is Ibrahim and I am originally from Africa but I live and work in KSA. I grew up in very good Muslim family Alhamdulilah. I consider myself as a good Muslim man inshallah. Right now, I have got an issue which is very difficult to tell my family even to convince myself may be due to lack of Dean.
HERE it goes….Well, there is this Muslim girl who is my neighbor and we grew up together even my family and her family knows each other very well. She is from good Muslim family too. Right now, the problem is, she went to a refugee comp for applying a visa to the US while, she was there, she met a Christian guy and GOT married. Her family did know about this. Later she become pregnant from that guy in the refugee comp. then they both got the chance and left to the US. After they got there, she delivered a baby girl and after a couple of months they got divorced. Now, she is alone with her daughter in the US. This has been 5 years since then. I really felt very bad, sad from inside my heart.
I am still single and she knows about it. She said "you are the one only knows about me and please accept and get me back to my religion and cried ...Cried… I really want to spend the rest of my life with you. So, please marry me and get me out from this mess. I don't want to spend my life alone and I become hopeless. Please help me and do anything you can and you are the only Muslim brother I know. Please…… "
One part of me says accept her because she is your Muslim sister and don't throw her away. The other part of me says you can not accept her if you do, what about your family and even people you know. If your mother knows about it, she will curse you and if you don't obey your mother, you will go to hell.
My question is, if I tell my family about this issue, my mother will not accept me BUT, What if I marry her by giving them false information OR not informing them at all because I am doing the right thing?

JAZAKALAH KEIR

Marriage is her solution, not yours. If you cannot act in the light of truth, don't act. She wants a quick fix out of her misery, you want her. I would seek the guidance of an older respected fellow. This is a confidential thing, and no need to spread this among your family, or hers, until a better solution can be found. Marriage ain't it right now, and while you want to help, give this a lot of thought, with good counsel before jumping into something you don't have all the facts about. Seems her first marriage was about leaving the country, and now she I stuck, and looks to you with opportunity, not love.

Find a better way to help, like offer her a ticket home, but not your heart. She didn't love you before, probably doesn't now. I admire your heart, but does she deserve it, or know what to do with it if you give it to her? /

First, Let me say get a complete understanding of what you believe in. She got involved w/ a man who she thought would make her happy. It was not because of his or her religion. Religion has done harm to many because they don't truly understand what it means to be a Muslim or Christian. It's a title; a name. Not who you are. You are a spirit being who is led by either your mind or your spirit. How can you make wise decisions when you allow your ego to tell you what to do? Your best advice is to Love. Love sees no wrongs and stands strong in the midst of tremendous issues. Don't blame it on religion. Religion is suppose to guide you to truth not imprison you. If you love her and willing to trust and forgive her. You parents and friend should also. But be aware she left on her own and made and terrible mistake. Don't her use you to get back home and then turn on you. Make sure its honest, care , love and trust, Pray for an answer. Tell you parents you are praying for her. And ask for their advise. But over all its your choice. And whatever, you decide be a man and stand by that decision. A true measure of a man is his willingness to stand in the midst of controversy ever if he has to do it alone. God will be his strength and power.