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MikzyUzumaki
Jan 10, 2011, 11:09 AM
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I Don't quite understand, I've been very close with my Girlfriend for the past two years and I don't actually see her often, and every time I arrange a date and time for us to meet up, she isn't able to come because for some apparent reason, saying I am pressuring her to come out and doesn't want to in the end, I don't understand what I am actually doing, at first I thought have I asked too much or spoke to her about the day we are going out too much via texts but I don't believe that is the problem, my apologies if a similar question to this has been asked, may I have some advice please.

liongal
Jan 10, 2011, 01:37 PM
I think you need to give her some space enough to miss you and appreciate what she has ;o)

Im sure she will come around. Good Luck

lvgmng
Jan 10, 2011, 03:16 PM
If she feels she is being pressured to see you and it isn't even that often (not sure how often) then you may need to give her space indefinitely. Don't call or text let her set up the dates for a while... if she doesn't call you then she is already gone.

martinizing2
Jan 10, 2011, 05:16 PM
Since you don't see each other that often you may have
Different definitions of what your relationship consists of.

When you have a chance to talk to her (not text , real human speech)
Ask her.
Defining the meaning of your relationship could be the key to
Understanding what exactly is going on.

Devorameira
Jan 11, 2011, 06:56 AM
Couples generally want to spend time together, unless there is something else that is taking up her time. Is her job, school, or family taking up her free time? If it's not one of those things, then it may be time to rethink the relationship.

You need to have a serious conversation with her to find out if she even wants to be in a relationship with you.

88sunflower
Jan 11, 2011, 07:13 AM
At this point you need to sit her down and put it out there in black and white. You have been close for two years and she has issues with spending time with you. There could be reasons for this. Is she not in love any more but can't tell you? Maybe her interest isn't there any more. Is she happy at your side or quiet and withdrawn? How does she act around you? Look at the entire picture and you might just find her answer. I wouldn't play the game of not contacting her to see what she does. Be a man and just ask her. If she doesn't want you around then so be it. Let her have the chance to voice it first.

answerme_tender
Jan 11, 2011, 01:00 PM
If your relationship is mostly based on texting and not really seeing each other that often, are you sure the reason she doesn't like YOU planning the get togethers is because you are interfering with the other side of her personal life, like maybe another relationship that doesn't have anything to do with you!!

MikzyUzumaki
Jan 16, 2011, 12:33 PM
Hmm, I've known this girl for a very long time, and we only just recently started to take our relationship seriously and I see her often and do all the other common things which usually occur in a relationship, and it has been three-four months that we have been seriously and whenever we get close and silent, she says she wants to kiss me but doesn't give me the reason why she doesn't, neither of us have a cold sore or anything wrong with our lips and she likes the shaping etcetera of my lips but I am just very unaware of why she doesn't kiss me? Any Help Or Advice Please, (My Apologies if a similar question to this has already been asked and/or answered, Please help me with this issue, thank you).

Devorameira
Jan 16, 2011, 01:54 PM
Is it possible that she's simply inexperienced? Give it some time, and don't push her. She'll get brave one day and lay one on you!

BrandonGT
Jan 17, 2011, 12:52 AM
Or just take the risk and give her a quick kiss

adviceishere
Jan 17, 2011, 06:16 AM
Yea maybe she's on this website asking the same thing? Why won't my boyfriend kiss me? LOL, just grab her and lay one on her! I'm sure she'll kiss back, plus its romantic ;)