My husband is in sales and this particular woman has made several comments to me the first time she met me, asking if I do favors for tickets that I receive for free for sporting events? Okay here it goes... 2 nights in a row my husband was out after midnight with her, once they were "preparing for a show and had to go to the office to get the info ready and she had a rental car that had her return to save a few bucks for the "company". That same night so at this point she is being picked up at hotel and dropped off by my husband... I don't know who to believe she is smuggy, he does answer the phone when she is around when I call. As well as I have called her phone when they were together and neither answered the phone. I was told we would havea date night... and my date night was ruined because of her. They vendor showed went on and afterwards a few went out for drinks.. I have no issue with that with men and women. But I showed up because I thought that he refused to answer my call that I would make my presents known and that would be the end of it. It was not.. my husband was upset ans me... now when I went into the restaurant I was nice smiled and even said hello to her.. and letting people who asked that I was on my way home to get ready for my movie night with my husband... well after that my husband took me aside and told me to leave that I had embarrassed him and that he would be home when he got home. After I left she made a comment, and people laughed so... he wanted to punish me so he stayed later and then after this went to a strip club with her being the only female that was under his supervision see he's her boss. And 1 or 2 or males and him were there. I was never told they went to a strip club and that it was his sugggestion. He told me they went to a bar... well needless to say.. I was blowing up both their phones all night. And I finally got an answer from her phone and she said she fell asleep and he was drinking and driving.. and hung up on me and never answered the phone again.. if I would have nown where she was I would have ripped her ugly face off and put her in the hospital but this is all before I knew that my husband was stupid enough to take his female employee to a stip club.. we are in counseling and he still thinks that he did nothing wrong and that she this lady and he are not doing anything.. and she is now getting ready to come back to town.. I am trying to figure out a way to put my point across that he needs to fire her or have no outside communication with her at all. They shared this erotic thing that even myself and my husband have never went to a strip club together. I am upset and want to know what to do.. cause I really just want to tell his supervisor and see if my husband gets fired for being an idiot. Or she does... for fear of this after hour work dinners are going to continue to happen... she is divorced and is in her 40's, I am in mid 30's as well as my husband.. she has a boyfriend that lives in canada and my husnband tells me this.. I am not wanting them to travel at all or work together anymore what do I do?

I think that you more than enough reasons to be upset. However, if it's not this women, it's going to be another women. Sounds more like your husband is slipping away from you. It's time for the two of you to have a serious talk about the future of your marriage.

If you two can't work things out and come to a mutual understanding, you're going to need more than just counselling.

Agreed, this women is just the one this time, not the reason or the fault.

So lock the bedroom door, and tell him to either start doing right or get out.

Start making a list and checking it twice!!

1. Way to support yourself without his income.

2. Check with attorney just in case.

3. If your in counseling, simply ask the counselor if believes this is going to work or not.

I would make sure I have all my bases covered before I make any type of decision. I guess my thoughts are that if any husband is willing to stick up and put a woman that he just works with before his own wife, there is a HUGE problem!! For what ever reason, you are no longer a number one priority, you have fallen in rank, now I don't know if he has actually replaced you physically with another woman, but he isn't into his marriage the way he should be!!

If nothing else if you can afford it I would hire a investigator, see what he can find out about this situation, if he does find anything, then I would be letting a employer know about conduct of his employees, but ONLY IF YOU HAVE ABSOLUTE PROOF!!

Good luck