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Jan 10, 2011, 12:52 AM
So I'm not the most social person in the world, but I'm trying this new thing where I'm going to branch out more and start to enjoy life a bit (I'm 21 and at a big university how can I not right! ) I go into more life details here:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/go/explore.php?do=showthread&t=542366
But that's a bit too much content to cram into this question.
Trouble is, I'm in unfamiliar waters in certain social situations, one being getting a cute girl's phone number. But over the past weekend on Friday night, I managed to do just that (alcohol may have assisted in my ability to do so haha). Now I've met girls, had girlfriends, gotten numbers before, but I feel like I can be a bit clumsy after this stage at times, so I wanted to try to prevent botching this one up.
We definitely hit it off that night at the club (dancing all night, flirting, talking etc.), and it seemed like the feeling was mutual. She gave me her number, made sure she got mine, and made sure she had my last name so she could add me on Facebook, so I was pretty sure it was a lock to at least see her again.
But I do remember being sort of jokingly pushy about hanging out that night, but I don't think it was anything more than being playful with her. Either way, I remember being told she couldn't because she had to drive back home to be up for work early (also pretty sure she lives at home, she's 19, going to school locally). Whatever, when she left I felt like the vibe was good. We stayed until the club shut down and when she left she said to text her and she gave me a hug goodbye.
I guess when we were leaving the club around 2:30 and walking our separate ways I sent her this message: "Hanging out tomorrow you're obligated now lol. Glad we met ;)"
I think I was sort of making jokes like "alright that's it we're hanging out tomorrow I'm putting my foot down" type deal, but I can't exactly remember now. But ehhhh now I'm thinking that might have been a little much on my part. The mood was pretty light and fun all night though, so I don't think she'd take it weird, would she?
Well about an hour later she texts me back: "I'm glad we met t"
Sweet. I ended the night on a high note.
So now comes the next day and I start thinking, and my brains starts running and going over the night and I start thinking about everything that happened with this girl, hoping I don't screw something up, thinking "oh man I should probably wait to text her so I don't seem desperate. But ah I don't want to wait too long so she thinks I'm not interested blah blah blah." Just dumb over-analytical BS. (The reason this sort of thing is easier for me when I'm intoxicated haha)
So I just think **** it, we were digging each other, no sense in messing around with it. So I send her a short little, what's up how's your day how was work, playful type message around 6pm. No response. So I'm thinking damn, oh well. At least I gave it a shot. Then about 2 hours after I texted her, I'm on my computer and see a notification that she's added me on Facebook.
Huh?
So I accept the friend request later that night (still saturday). Now I'm a bit confused though. What do I do now? Do I wait a few days and text her again? Message her on Facebook? Wait for her to get a hold of me? I haven't seen her online at all, so not sure how often she checks it.
The one thing I'm always a bit nervous about is seeming too available or being too pushy, so I figured I'd consult the human-interaction-geniuses on this website before I act further on the situation. Thanks for any help/advice/insight anyone is willing to offer!
Summary:
-Met a girl at the club
-Hit it off
-Text her the next day
-No response
-She adds me on Facebook that night
-Still no contact since the night we met
-What do I do now?
-I over-think things
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/go/explore.php?do=showthread&t=542366
But that's a bit too much content to cram into this question.
Trouble is, I'm in unfamiliar waters in certain social situations, one being getting a cute girl's phone number. But over the past weekend on Friday night, I managed to do just that (alcohol may have assisted in my ability to do so haha). Now I've met girls, had girlfriends, gotten numbers before, but I feel like I can be a bit clumsy after this stage at times, so I wanted to try to prevent botching this one up.
We definitely hit it off that night at the club (dancing all night, flirting, talking etc.), and it seemed like the feeling was mutual. She gave me her number, made sure she got mine, and made sure she had my last name so she could add me on Facebook, so I was pretty sure it was a lock to at least see her again.
But I do remember being sort of jokingly pushy about hanging out that night, but I don't think it was anything more than being playful with her. Either way, I remember being told she couldn't because she had to drive back home to be up for work early (also pretty sure she lives at home, she's 19, going to school locally). Whatever, when she left I felt like the vibe was good. We stayed until the club shut down and when she left she said to text her and she gave me a hug goodbye.
I guess when we were leaving the club around 2:30 and walking our separate ways I sent her this message: "Hanging out tomorrow you're obligated now lol. Glad we met ;)"
I think I was sort of making jokes like "alright that's it we're hanging out tomorrow I'm putting my foot down" type deal, but I can't exactly remember now. But ehhhh now I'm thinking that might have been a little much on my part. The mood was pretty light and fun all night though, so I don't think she'd take it weird, would she?
Well about an hour later she texts me back: "I'm glad we met t"
Sweet. I ended the night on a high note.
So now comes the next day and I start thinking, and my brains starts running and going over the night and I start thinking about everything that happened with this girl, hoping I don't screw something up, thinking "oh man I should probably wait to text her so I don't seem desperate. But ah I don't want to wait too long so she thinks I'm not interested blah blah blah." Just dumb over-analytical BS. (The reason this sort of thing is easier for me when I'm intoxicated haha)
So I just think **** it, we were digging each other, no sense in messing around with it. So I send her a short little, what's up how's your day how was work, playful type message around 6pm. No response. So I'm thinking damn, oh well. At least I gave it a shot. Then about 2 hours after I texted her, I'm on my computer and see a notification that she's added me on Facebook.
Huh?
So I accept the friend request later that night (still saturday). Now I'm a bit confused though. What do I do now? Do I wait a few days and text her again? Message her on Facebook? Wait for her to get a hold of me? I haven't seen her online at all, so not sure how often she checks it.
The one thing I'm always a bit nervous about is seeming too available or being too pushy, so I figured I'd consult the human-interaction-geniuses on this website before I act further on the situation. Thanks for any help/advice/insight anyone is willing to offer!
Summary:
-Met a girl at the club
-Hit it off
-Text her the next day
-No response
-She adds me on Facebook that night
-Still no contact since the night we met
-What do I do now?
-I over-think things