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vrncsampson
Jan 8, 2011, 11:35 AM
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. He doesn't like going out at all, but when we do go out, he expects me to pay for everything, even though I don't have a job, and I only get a $5 allowance every week. I'm always taking him out to places, like the movies, because I get free movie tickets from my group home. I don't like asking him for things. He doesn't even like giving me food, when I come over. I thought in a relationship, food is mandatory. We are always in his house doing nothing. I always end up sleeping on the bed, while he plays videogames on his XBOX, all day. He only pays attention to me when he feels like it, and even that's rare. He doesn't like paying for anything even though he always has the money for it. In our entire relationship, he hasn't given me a single gift. For our 1 year anniversary, he gave me a deflated balloon that said Happy Anniversary on it. I'm tired of paying for everything when most of the time, I don't even have the money for it. He doesn't even like to pay for my bus/cab ride home when I don't have the money for it. I'm always stuck having to ask the bus driver to let me on the bus. He complains that I'm always asking him for money, but I'm not. I just want to be treated right, and for him to make me happy. I always think of him, and I never think of myself or what I want/need, so I don't see why he can't do the same. I've given him a lot of presents, even sometimes for no special reason, and some of them were homemade. He's taken me out to places, but I had to BEG him to take me out. I always have to beg him to give me food. He's sweet and loving, when he wants to be, but he's SUPER CHEAP. I've tried asking him to stop being cheap, but he just tells me to get a job. He doesn't even have a job himself, but he always has money. It seems to me like he doesn't care at all most of the time. He's always asking me to do things for him, like his hair or his homework, but when I ask for something, it's always a problem. Should I break up with him because he's cheap?

talaniman
Jan 8, 2011, 05:41 PM
Yeah, by all means break up with him, not because he is cheap, but has no job, is lazy, and doesn't treat you the way you want. I think being super cheap may be his best quality, and that's not good.

What's amazing is you lasted a year when anyone else would have left after the first bus ride home.

tina2003
Jan 9, 2011, 08:40 PM
I think you better respect yourself and break up with him. He doesn't seem to be responsible for you and its not good. You can do better than this. You should get a job and love yourself and treat yourself better than you will find someone who treat you with love and pation.

Funsizest
Jan 11, 2011, 05:33 PM
Hunny... For a guy that RARELY pays attention to you, after all you do for him... Don't you think there's a problem? Of course you do, that's why you're here. I mean, the video games, he's a guy... he's going to want to play them as much as he can. That's Normal. But for a guy that gives you a DEFLATED ANNIVERSARY BALLON, ON your anniversary... That's just... Wow. I read that and laughed. (My ex gave me a used Stich backpack from like, a thrift store. Ewww.) Anyway, Back to the point, He doesn't seem to show you much respect. But maybe don't break up with him just yet... Give him a chance to gravel at your knees ;) Tell him that you don't feel appreciated for all that you do... If you have to, make a list, of all the things you do for him, then ask him what he does for you back? These are just sujestions. I can think of soooo many ways to prove yourself... but here's the thing, if you are unhappy... and I mean Missarible living this way, tell him straight up, that your not happy. That's the truth, right? If he really loves you, he would try harder if you gave him a pinch of a threat. (Not a kill threat, a "leaving him" threat... just thought I would point that out ;P)... for kicks. :) Hope that helps. :D

vrncsampson
Jan 12, 2011, 09:49 PM
I've already tried all those things and the "leaving him" threat doesn't work because he's OK with us breaking up. He's a strange guy. Not like other guys... just really strange and hard to figure out.

talaniman
Jan 13, 2011, 08:10 AM
He obviously doesn't care about much, especially not you, so why should you care? Just disappear from his life, and have no more to do with him.

QLP
Jan 13, 2011, 08:18 AM
Don't threaten to leave him just do it. You deserve better than this.

answerme_tender
Jan 13, 2011, 08:23 AM
Wow, aren't you tired of paying for any type of affection from this guy!! You already said that he doesn't pay you any attention unless he wants to, that all you do is lay on his bed while he plays video games.

Wow, I can guarantee you NO ONE is jealous of you having this guy as a boyfriend!! He is not only cheap, but has absolutely NO RESPECT for you---most strangers would treat you better then your own boyfriend!! Now that is sad.

Don't you want more out of a relationship? Hopefully you aren't foolish enough to believe that this guy will ever change because he won't. NOT FOR YOU or ANY OTHER GIRL.

Move on and get a real guy. You might want to raise your standards of qualities for a boyfriend. Make sure he has a job, and more importantly has a work ethic! That he knows how to treat a girl like a lady, and you don't have to BEG him for a drink of water or food when you are out with him. Good luck

swaggerjagger
Feb 18, 2012, 02:03 PM
You should because he is not treating you right if you want to be with him then he has 2 understand you he has 2 know boyfriend and girlfriend relationships always get like this and I will tell you this DUMMMMMPPPPP HIMMMMM!! He is not that man 2 go out with he should be ashamed of himself

Boyfriend and girlfriend are suppose to have a good life together having fun not stay and pay buses I feel sorry for you I think you should dump him he is a little **** he needs to learn some manners anyway when marriage comes you and Ur boyfriend have 2 work together to be there as a family you know what I mean by that I think you should dump him he is an *** hole little ****ing *******