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Khayrah
Jan 8, 2011, 05:26 AM
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and I cry like at least 5 times a day...
My baby father is inconsiderate and rude to me, although he never used to be like this...
He was sweet, thoughtful, always there for me when I felt down... He says he is happy that we'r having a son together and that he loves me, but I don't feel that from his side. I just don't know what to do anymore... is it worth still trying or should I just let go? I tried talking to him hundreds of times but for some reason he always thinks I'm trying to cause an argument...
We hardly spend time together because he says he don't want to be in the house... Even when he is here all he does is play computer games... I feel alone and I miss the way it was before... Is there anything I can do? Please, I really need some advice because I don't think I can figure this out alone... Thanks

LightCross
Jan 8, 2011, 09:54 AM
Oh my gosh that is very inconsiderate of him, especially you both already have kid.Khayrah I think you need to calm down for awhile and back down abit because the way I see it he is somehow making distance from you both, or maybe he has problems he can't talk about or something in mind that made him indulged in video games and doesn't want to be in home too much. Talk it out with him when his mood is good , open talk casually and don't give pressure too much, because if he really does have some problem as I gussed giving more pressure to him will add more to his problems.

But yeah if you are in his future and he reallly cares about you , eventually he will talk out things with you and solve problems with you maturely instead of venting into video games and abandoning you and your kid

Anyway I hope you be strong and resolve your matters with him

Jake2008
Jan 8, 2011, 10:14 AM
AT 35 weeks pregnant, your options at the moment are limited.

I would advise you not to consider any major decisions right now. Having a baby is a very stressful time, especially at this stage of the game.

I would trust that he is going to be there for you, and when the two of you have settled in with a new baby, and things get more routine again, things will probably get back to normal.

In time, when you are not sleep deprived, tired, and concentrating on a baby 24/7, talk to your boyfriend, and keep talking. Communicating effectively, even for the sake of the baby you are having together, will be the key in working out any difficulties that will inevitably come your way.

Relationships are hard work. So is adding a baby to the mix. Try to take things one step at a time and not get ahead of yourself.

For now, put your feet up, and don't worry about all the 'what if's', and relax and concentrate on this soon to be born baby. Hopefully, everything will fall into place after the adjustment to parenthood is made.

talaniman
Jan 8, 2011, 05:54 PM
If this is the first for you both then its pretty normal I would say.

How old are you, and how long have you been together??