View Full Version : I am a muslim boy, 23 yrs old, I want to marry my lover . She is hindu. I love her
shammu2009
Jan 8, 2011, 03:45 AM
I am a Muslim boy, 23 yrs old, I want to marry my lover . She is Hindu. I love her very much. She too loves me. Her younger sister recently married ( love marriage) without their parents permission. Her parents suffered very much about that. They cried a lot.
So I have to convince her parents. I want to be with them. I love her parents too. I want to take care of her parents also. Because they have no sons, and 2 daughters only.
If my lover married me without their permission, then her parents will suffer a lot.
I want to see her parents happy. And I want to marry my lover.
Please give me your valuable advices . I can't live without my lover. ( love is great. but how to marry with out hurting parents.)
joypulv
Jan 8, 2011, 11:05 AM
I would approach them formally. Dress neatly, bring a gift of food and flowers, and ask if you may sit and talk to them about their daughter for 20 minutes. Tell them about your family, about your plans for a career, about how you would raise any children, about teaching them two faiths. In many places like the US, it is common to have interfaith marriages with 2 clergy performing the ceremony. (Although I've never heard of a Muslim and Hindu ceremony, yours could be a first.) Tell them you do not want to hurt either sets of parents, but that you believe when children are grown they must make their own choices in order to be true adults.
The reason I said 20 minutes is so that they can get upset in private. It's less awkward if you plan your exit in advance.
AbuBakr_Fin
Jan 18, 2011, 05:14 PM
In The Name of Allaah, fear Allaah first, and think.
If you love her, are you pleased that she is going to Hell Fire? You are just thinking about pleasing her and her parents, but you are not afraid that you are planning to disobey Allaah, and you are not worried that your future children will go to Hell Fire with you because of that wordly love? Clean your heart to make your Religion purely for Allaah to come first.
I was a hindu before, and made shirk like they make, and I swear by Allaah I would rather have myself tortured in Guantanamo Bay until the Day of Judgement than live with mushrikiin, who go to eternal Punishment for making gods with their own hands and making sujuud to them and loving them as only Allaah deserves to be loved.
It is Haram to marry a mushrikah woman in The Book of Allaah -The Mighty and Majestic- Who said: "Do not marry unbelieving women untill they believe: a slave woman who believes is better for you than an unbelieving woman. Even though she allure you ... Unbelievers do but beckon you to The Fire. But Allaah beckons by His Grace to The Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear for mankind: that they may recieve admonition." (2:221).
And it is shirk to accept ruling against The Rule of your Creator, Who owns you, and has given you and this lady all good you ever had (so don`t you love Him more), and according to Nabi -sAaws- you are not from his ummah if you live with mushrikuun. So beg Allaah to be a muslim, and not just claim to be.
My sincere advice for you is this:
-1. be patient for your Lord,
-2. make qhusl to purify yourself from shirk and pray for Allaah to forgive you, and guide you and her, and her parents. They need your help to become muslims, and maybe Allaah put this love in your heart in order to make you a messenger of His Messenger -sAaws- to them, that they might know Him, His Prophet (sAaws), and His Religion.
-3. you have to learn what is the meaning and what are the requirements of la ilaha ill-Allaah, which is the key to paradise. Look for that knowledge.
-4. explain her that as a muslim you are not allowed to marry her unless she sincerely accepts Islam as her religion first, and ask her to consider to testify `there is no god but God, and MuHammad is a Messenger of God -sAaws`.
-5. ask for permission before marriage from the parents, because you must do so as a muslim, but if they don`t accept, then she is no more obliged to obey them because she needs to save herself in Islam.
Don`t be angry with me. My eyes are forming tears due to fear that you will loose your Deen, because this is a trial from Allaah. I will pray for you.
shammu2009
Jan 19, 2011, 02:47 AM
Assalamu Alaikum AbuBakr_Fin,
Insha ALLAH, I hope, she will accept Islam before d marriage.
I will Dua for me, her,her parents and for Enitire world to obey "ALLAH" 's orders and Mohamed S.A.W.S 's words.
Thank u Vry mch 4 your valuable Advice.
Allah Hafiz
nanuchini
Feb 2, 2012, 01:58 PM
We are hindu and we believe you will leave her, marry four time and lot of other thing. Reas more from india -pakistan and you will get it. What will daily dinner / every thing different. Thing do not work after marriage. Not only her parents your parents also want muslim girl.
asoss12
Mar 16, 2012, 07:10 AM
I am a hindu girl and recently I have started to like a muslim boy. He has shown some interest in me and I very much like him also. So much in fact that I see a long future with him and am willing to convert to islam, not purly for the sake of the marriage but I too have been reading some verses of the Quran and for some reason feel the mercy of Allah and how kind he is. I wabt to start a reasonship with him but I'm scared of the sin of kissing and touching, I will never go further. Will allah forgive my sins if I marry him? Also I am hesitant as how to tell my parents that I am dating a non- hindu and that I am willing to convert. I have a duty towards my parents too, to be a good daughter but all I feel is that I'm being VERY selfish but I feel that this boy is my path is islam.
DIFFERENT ISLAM
Jul 21, 2012, 12:49 AM
Salam dear ,
What u are thinking is absolutely right.
You are saving your this life & the later life also.
Please do convert to muslim & then mrge.
Convince your parents & if they don't understant
Read 2 rakats nafal salat & ran away in the name of
Allah . He will defintly save you 1000000% gaurnted