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rilind
Jan 7, 2011, 08:08 PM
Ok so I'm 18 years old , I'm in my first year of university and I'm having problems finding a girls , its not that girls are not attracted to me I get approached by girls who like me very often but I'm so very picky when it comes to choosing the lady's .the girls I do like are verry hard to approach they don't give me the time of day , so what should I do should I just give up and start dating girls that aren't as good looking as the ones I like ?

Kyu745
Jan 7, 2011, 09:05 PM
I think you should get to know some of the girls who approach you, you could end up pleasantly surprised.
I know where you're coming from, but as a girl, I was that kind of girl, when someone gives you that chance, it could be the best you have ever gotten.
If it turns out you don't like them, then it wasn't meant to be, but the girls you do seen to prefer won't give you a second glance, so aren't doing the same thing you do to the girls who try to approach you?
You. Know how thatnfeels, so try and be a bigger person, don't just brush people off because they don't appear to be what you want, see if you like the inside. Its beyond corny but it is true to never judge a book by it's cover

adviceishere
Jan 8, 2011, 05:54 AM
It take a lot of courage to approach someone and ask them out, (as you know because you can't approach the girls that catch your eye) so these girls that do come up to you have probably really built up some courage to ask you out, isn't that not flattering enough? So give the next one a chance, it only has to be one date, you may not fancy them straight away but you never know, love is blind as they say :)

Devorameira
Jan 9, 2011, 07:19 AM
If you take some time to get to know some less than gorgeous girls, you may find that they are way more attractive on the inside than some of those other girls.

People aren't perfect, so if you really want to find a good girlfriend, you need to look way beyond their looks.

Scheat
Jan 9, 2011, 09:33 AM
You need to rephrase your question,because what you're looking is not the right girl,but a great looking girl.

Obviously the right girl will be atractive to your eyes,but the right person isn't only visually pleasant,she must always have some personality traits that conquer your heart and your mind.But that's not what you're worried about-if you were,you'd be asking "how can I find a nice girl that looks hot and is also intelligent/fun/artistic/etc".

Give those average looking girls a chance and they may surprise you.But you need to learn that love and relationships have to do with so much more than just looks.If all you for now is hook ups and open relationships,then keep chasing those unavailable girls.They may surprise you,they may not... you'll find out.

QLP
Jan 9, 2011, 10:56 AM
The whole point of dating is to get to know someone to find out if they are someone you would like to spend more time with. How else would you find out if someone is the right one? Since you are writing off a whole load of girls because they don't match up to what you currently perceive as attractive enough you are denying yourself the change to even find out what they are like. I'm not denying that physical attraction matters, but you may be surprised how flexible our own perception of whom we find attractive is once we actually get to know them.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 9, 2011, 11:43 AM
If outer beauty is all that matters you will never be happy, and that beauty fails over time anyway.