It is tearing us apart she went from having 5 or more orgasms to not able to have a one.it is destroying us an making things awkward,please help

How old are you both?

We are both 34,

It was like that in my prevuos relationship but not this bad,an it's a travisty because we are bonkers over each other,an it is making things awkward

Have you tried different positions to see if some are less problematic than others?
Maybe your lady could try practising kegal exercises as having stronger muscles in that area can help.
Try using lube. It reduces the problem for some people.
Make sure your strokes are slow to start with, this gives the vagina time to adjust to fit around the penis better.
Minimise total exit and re-entry as this will cause the most air to be pumped in.

Sorry if some of that is a bit graphic. Hope something helps. Good luck.

P.s. If you use the answer the question box at the bottom rather than comments you can type fuller answers.

If this is a new or growing problem, she needs to see her doctor to make certain that she is healthy. This could be a symptom of other problems.

Have there been any other changes such as pregnancy or major weight gain/loss that could help account for change of sensations or amount of pressure she is now feeling?

First, air going into the vagina can cause life threatening complications (air embolus). It isn't common, but it does happen--its why one should never blow air into a vagina. She should get checked and make sure she has no respiratory symptoms.

Position and technique probably will eliminate the problem. She should try "the rider" position, and do not come completely out of her, hopefully that should eliminate the majority of it. Kegals are always a good idea.

First, air going into the vagina can cause life threatening complications (air embolus). It isn't common, but it does happen--its why one should never blow air into a vagina. She should get checked and make sure she has no respiratory symptoms.

Position and technique probably will eliminate the problem. She should try "the rider" position, and do not come completely out of her, hopefully that should eliminate the majority of it. Kegals are always a good idea.

WRONG! So very wrong.

An air embolism is when air gets into the Vascular system. What we're talking about here is a little queefing. There is nothing life threatening about a few harmless ***** farts. You get partial credit for recognizing that the system is a plunger style system. The cervix is a little thick and gooey to allow air past. If it does get past then it will go into the uterus, then it will, through muscle contraction within the uterus, enter the abdominal cavity. The air there will be absorbed into the body.

How do I know this? This is the general technique used in laparoscopic surgery. They inflate your belly up like a balloon and perform minimally invasive surgeries. Like Tubal ligations, gall bladder removal, and endometriosis for example. While most of the gas is removed from the body after the surgery, a little is left in and it is absorbed back into the body.

What a woman needs to be careful of is sex underwater or when the pelvis is submerged. The same pump system when used with a denser medium, i.e. water, will become more effective. You won't get the equivalent of wet ***** farts, you will get water movement through the cervix, uterus, and into the chest cavity. The problem is that little bits of the uterine lining will be carried along with the water and might plant themselves in the abdominal cavity. These will respond to and act like the lining outside of the uterus. This is called endometriosis.

This is a more dangerous but treatable condition. There is No Way at all that air can get into the vascular system through sex. The only think you get with air and sex is a ***** fart.

I am sorry. I just like saying ***** fart.

Note the ***** above relate to the colloquial term for a woman's naughty bits that is also a synonym for a cat.

Is the OP talking about intercourse or oral?

Intercourse

Intercourse

WRONG! So very wrong.

An air embolism is when air gets into the Vascular system. What we're talking about here is a little queefing. There is nothing life threatening about a few harmless ***** farts. You get partial credit for recognizing that the system is a plunger style system. The cervix is a little thick and gooey to allow air past. If it does get past then it will go into the uterus, then it will, through muscle contraction within the uterus, enter the abdominal cavity. The air there will be absorbed into the body.

How do I know this? This is the general technique used in laparoscopic surgery. They inflate your belly up like a balloon and perform minimally invasive surgeries. Like Tubal ligations, gall bladder removal, and endometriosis for example. While most of the gas is removed from the body after the surgery, a little is left in and it is absorbed back into the body.

What a woman needs to be careful of is sex underwater or when the pelvis is submerged. The same pump system when used with a denser medium, ie water, will become more effective. You won't get the equivalent of wet ***** farts, you will get water movement through the cervix, uterus, and into the chest cavity. The problem is that little bits of the uterine lining will be carried along with the water and might plant themselves in the abdominal cavity. These will respond to and act like the lining outside of the uterus. This is called endometriosis.

This is a more dangerous but treatable condition. There is No Way at all that air can get into the vascular system through sex. The only think you get with air and sex is a ***** fart.

I am sorry. I just like saying ***** fart.

Before you go and make an absolute claim, do your homework. Yes an air embolus is from air getting into the vasculature; however,the vagina is a very vascular area and air can move into the arterioles and cause life threatening problems, though I grant you it is rare (risk increases with pregnancy or post partum).

Also, during laproscopic surgeries it is not air that they inflate you with, it is carbon dioxide (co2) which is a different gas than air (70% nitrogen).

Air embolism. If you're going to try to out biology me at least use a spell checker. As well an air embolism is when Air, regardless of it's composition, gets in to the blood stream. Be it nitrogen or carbon dioxide. Either way the condition is mostly fatal because the gas, regardless of it's composition, reaches the heart and instead of a fluid pump it becomes a air compressor. No blood movement. Death.

Considering the positive pressure of all the capillary beds in the uterus as well as the general make of the uterus. Air, regardless of it's composition, would take the path of least resistance, being through the fallopian tubes. If it even gets past the Cervix, which all things considered would be very rare in and upon itself.

There is a greater risk of air entering through the skin, or the eye, or the mouth/intestinal tract then the vagina. Regardless of when in the menstrual/pregnancy cycle. Take the colon and large intestines for example. There is a huge amount of blood vessels in that area. A lot of far end digestion and water reclamation in that area. I am not sure you remember the last time you farted... I haven't heard many people dying from air embolisms caused by bloating and gas.

In the end this isn't even a worry or concern. There is no way, 100% +- 0.05% 19 times out of 20, that this could ever occur. Unless you have some case studies, medical studies, or the like to suggest it.

air embolism. If you're going to try to out biology me at least use a spell checker. As well an air embolism is when Air, regardless of it's composition, gets in to the blood stream. Be it nitrogen or carbon dioxide. Either way the condition is mostly fatal because the gas, regardless of it's composition, reaches the heart and instead of a fluid pump it becomes a air compressor. No blood movement. Death.

Considering the positive pressure of all the capillary beds in the uterus as well as the general make of the uterus. Air, regardless of it's composition, would take the path of least resistance, being through the fallopian tubes. If it even gets past the Cervix, which all things considered would be very rare in and upon itself.

There is a greater risk of air entering through the skin, or the eye, or the mouth/intestinal tract then the vagina. Regardless of when in the menstrual/pregnancy cycle. Take the colon and large intestines for example. There is a huge amount of blood vessels in that area. A lot of far end digestion and water reclamation in that area. I am not sure you remember the last time you farted... I haven't heard many people dying from air embolisms caused by bloating and gas.

In the end this isn't even a worry or concern. There is no way, 100% +- 0.05% 19 times out of 20, that this could ever occur. Unless you have some case studies, medical studies, or the like to suggest it.

First, embolism is the term for the process of an embolus (air or clot) travelling through the vessels. Next, the reason that an embolus is deadly is not, as you described, because it travels to the heart and somehow converts the heart to an air pump. The reasin is that the heart sends the embolus to either the lung (a pulmonary embolism) or the brain (a stroke) or another organ (mesenteric artery, liver, kidney, etc.. ).

That being said, it does greatly matter the composition of the "air" as divers well know, nitrogen is the gas that is responsible for embolus in "the bends" (a process of multiple embolisms throughout the body).

However, rather than proceed back and forth with you, I will provide what I can in the way of proof.

Medical/embolism air in vagina (http://tafkac.org/medical/embolism_air_in_vagina.html)

NHS Clinical Knowledge Summaries - Patient information leaflet - Air embolism (http://www.cks.nhs.uk/patient_information_leaflet/Air_embolism#)

I am an RN and have seen quite a few embolism issues over the years (though never one reported as air being pushed into the vagina). I am not here to get in a pissing contest with you either, I am providing my opinion and experience-disagree if you like, but lets not tell the posters that its perfectly OK to do something and then have someone die (albeit rare) because of it.

Now it is your turn, lets see your proof that it can not happen, as you adamently state.

Well crap. I have been told.

Pride demands that point out that the case you have brought forth are of oral sex during pregnancy. That isn't the case here.

I would put the risk of this happening, pregnant or not, akin to being struck by lightning. Even with the pressure of the air and the normal state of the anatomy there. I still hold that there is nothing to be worried about so long as you don't do something stupid.

Paraphrase: You're right. I am not.

I am sorry. I just like saying ***** fart.Hello C:

I LOVE saying it too. Pu$$y fart. And, I never knew they hurt.

excon

What concerns me is that she has apparently experienced a change in what feels good and what causes pain. She really needs to see her doctor and make certain she is healthy.