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Louisey
Jan 4, 2011, 08:25 PM
I was raped November 2010 and I told and everything but I don't really have friends and I am going to a new school. I told the police and they can't really do anything because I don't have much evidence and I don't know him but I see him all the time in the streets and stuff. My mum is to busy with 7 other kids and work and she is going back to school this year for her nurse thing. I have no one to talk to and counselors don't help I have had to talk tothis because anger and stuff. I want to get him to leave me alone and make him scared that he won't hurt another person and will leave me alone. I know were he lives I want to scared him by holding a knife or something up to him but I don't want to I just need someone to talk to and I don't know who or anything. I'm dealing on my own. What would happen if I do scare him like that,

justcurious55
Jan 4, 2011, 08:49 PM
Um, well, if he didn't fight back and kill you first... you could be arrested and face all sorts of charges.

You said you want him to leave you alone. Is he still doing something to bother you? Does he still talk to you? Is he harassing you? I'm not sure what more you can do legally if the police aren't doing anything-hopefully some of our other members will have some ideas. As for the anger and other emotions you are trying to deal with, you can feel free to talk here on this site. We have a lot of really great people here if you ever need to just talk.

sugarbaby12117
Jan 4, 2011, 08:58 PM
Oh you poor thing! :(... im so sorry about this whole situation and I don't have much experience when it comes to anything in the rape section so I'm sorry. But I hope you recover from this incident soon! <3

Fr_Chuck
Jan 4, 2011, 09:00 PM
No, you want to hurt him that is normal, and I am sorry the police will not do anything. What you do need to do is get professional counseling help.

Louisey
Jan 4, 2011, 09:45 PM
Yeah I want him to leave me alone. His like I see him on the street and he yells out to me saying hi and he sotme times comes up to me and kind of following me he normally is with his friends when he does it so I think there just trying to be funny. I just want him to leave me alone

Alty
Jan 4, 2011, 10:18 PM
When it happened was a rape kit done? Was evidence collected? If so, the police have his DNA, you know where he lives, and an arrest shouldn't be that difficult.

I've been raped, so I do know how it feels. I didn't seek counseling until much later in my life. Unlike you, I told no one.

You need to seek professional counseling. There are great counselors out there that can teach you how to cope with this, how to deal with it, and how to get over your anger, even if he's never arrested for this crime.

You are not to blame for this. He made a choice. He did this to you. You did nothing wrong. Do not let him have control over your life. Don't give him that power, because he doesn't deserve it. He's a pebble in your shoe, but you have the power to take that pebble out.

Talk to your mom about counseling. It's the next step so that you can get on with your life and leave him where he belongs, in the past.

Louisey
Jan 5, 2011, 12:22 AM
There wasn't a rape kit done because I reported the next day. The most they have is the clothes from it and they can't get evidence of them anymore

adthern
Jan 5, 2011, 04:54 AM
I would suggest going to the District Attorney and seeing if they can help you with prosecution, the police sound completely unhelpful here.

Next, go and get a restraining order (in the court usually with the DA), a much easier thing than a prosecution.

If you can, see if you can get an attorney to take your case probono and file a civil action against the individual, though I suspect he has no assets.

Lastly, whether you feel that counselling is helping or not, get into a support group and stay, they will help over time.

Louisey
Jan 6, 2011, 12:30 AM
I don't know if this is a good place to talk to people but I don't have anyone.

Since the rape I haven't had anyone to talk to because of everything. I have been thinking about suicide and I don't know why I have attempted in the past because of bullying and other family stuff but failed :(... I see him all the time on the street and he just goes on all fine what he did to me hasn't even affected him like it has me I don't know what to do anymore.

justcurious55
Jan 6, 2011, 01:12 AM
Suicide is never the answer. I hope you will stick around and talk to us. I wish I could offer more advice, but I can only imagine what you're dealing with. But there's lots of other great people here who can offer more than I can.

redhed35
Jan 6, 2011, 12:36 PM
There are some things that are too big to deal with on your own,this is one of them.

You need help,and you need to find someone to listen to you.

You can get through this,but not on your own,you have being brave this far,keep asking for help.

adthern
Jan 7, 2011, 11:16 AM
There is a difference between chatting here (which is a great start) and getting into a group of people you can see, hear, cry and heal with. Call your local hospital or police department and ask if there are any support groups for sexual assault victims. I am sure that if you are near an urban center there are many.

What does it hurt to go and listen? You may make friends too. There are also suicide prevention groups out there, which are specific to that issue and are excellent supports. Please, go and get some help. Suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary question!

bittersweet93
Dec 27, 2011, 04:32 AM
Hi, I'm also a rape victim... its emberassing to say sometimes but let me give you some advice. I was raped at 15 and I am now 18yrs old. The pain never really goes away but you learn to control it. My attorney told me that just because he did something bad to me doesn't me I should throw away my life!
Just keep pushing your case and try seeing a GOOD perfessional not all of them are the same, you also need to tell yourself you will get through this. It takes a lot of energy to do so but things will get better. Talk to an adult to help you through this an aunt, sister cuznt , friend. Don't risk your mental well being and time on someone that doesn't deserve it. Hopefully you haven't done anything you regret but please remember that we rape victims share the same pain. We all want what's best for each other. Revenge is not the answer. I don't know if your religious or not but please pray to God to eliminate the hate in your heart. I hope this helped a bit. Stay strong.