What to do?? My bf's kids refuse to acknowledge me they have never called me by my name in the 8 years we have been together! They come into my home and it is like I am invisible like I do not exist!! I told my boyfriend if his kids could not respect me and acknowledge me in my home they did not need to come to my home at all even if I was not home. They are ages 20 18 15 old enough to know better!!

Wow, that's pretty immature of them, 8 years is a long time, its your home and you right to say what you said to your boyfriend, but what about trying one more time? How about getting them altogether and having some "family" time? Or having them come out with you one by one? And get to know them separately, or you could get the least rude one to come out with you and that sibiling might tell the others that your actually arlight? What about their biological mother? Is she immature like that? It could be that she has piosoned their minds over the years not to like you. What ever the reason give it a try once more if it doesn't work and your boyfriend sees you've tried your hardest then he'll will have a lot of thinking and talking to do with his kids. You don't have to have them round your own home if you don't want.

Dump him, and get a guy who demands discipline, and respect from his kids, and has taught them how to behave in public, and at the home of others.

Have you ever tried to bond with his children in the 8yrs that you have been in a relationship with him? Just curious as to why none of these three children will even speak to you to merely say 'Hi" exspecially after this amount of time. I can understand if you just started going out with their father or if he left their mother for you. Most children after seeing a loving relationship will come around to the new partner of their parent.

I would simply explain to your boyfriend that if his children for whatever reason cannot show any type of courtesy when coming to your home, then you would feel more comfortable if he would have his visitation with them at his own home. If he lives with you, then that would be considered the children's home also, so you would not be able to keep them from their home.

That would be when you need to have a talk with your boyfriend that its time for some counseling for all of you. You need a professional to help you be able to bond with these children, who happen to be big part of the man you loves life and will continue to be. If you feel that he won't help with the situation then perhaps it time to move on without him. Good luck