TiredPrincess
Jan 4, 2011, 01:55 AM
My boyfriend of two months has put me through hell. All I ever asked for was to have time with him, not even a whole day. All he ever wants to do is hang out with his friends and get drunk. When ever I ask why he doesn't take me along he says it's because he knows I won't have fun. Which is true I don't drink, though that isn't the reason. The three times I did go with him, one of those times I was actually invited to go by him. All he did was drink and drink, he just ignored me the entire time, oh and once he left me there for three hours! Every time he gets drunk, he ends up turning into the biggest jerk I have ever dated. One time he made me so mad, and would take me home, so I walk several miles back to my house.
Having threatened to break up with him if he doesn't shape up, things have gotten well not soooo much, but better. We spend more time together, and he isn't always trying to get ride of me... right away. What he does now is he makes plans with me. So when the time he told me comes around I text him, several times, then eventually call him. This takes about three hours if I am lucky. He gives me some bull crap about his friend or family needing him, or my favorite "I had stuff to do". Of course by the time he finally tells me all that it's to late, and I won't show up past 9pm.
Today he made plans with me, and yet again he bailed, did not text till 11pm. I finally got all the information out of him. He said he loves me, sooo I told him I did too, but he should show it. After some time I ask him what he is doing, he responds with "listening to music and being sad". I did not get his reason for being sad instead I got a reason for why he acts the way he does. He told me he is scared, this is the happiest he has ever been. This feeling is not mutual anymore.
My question is if he was really scared would he really treat me as bad as he does? If he wanted to keep me, wouldn't he try a bit harder, and try to show that he wants me around?
Having threatened to break up with him if he doesn't shape up, things have gotten well not soooo much, but better. We spend more time together, and he isn't always trying to get ride of me... right away. What he does now is he makes plans with me. So when the time he told me comes around I text him, several times, then eventually call him. This takes about three hours if I am lucky. He gives me some bull crap about his friend or family needing him, or my favorite "I had stuff to do". Of course by the time he finally tells me all that it's to late, and I won't show up past 9pm.
Today he made plans with me, and yet again he bailed, did not text till 11pm. I finally got all the information out of him. He said he loves me, sooo I told him I did too, but he should show it. After some time I ask him what he is doing, he responds with "listening to music and being sad". I did not get his reason for being sad instead I got a reason for why he acts the way he does. He told me he is scared, this is the happiest he has ever been. This feeling is not mutual anymore.
My question is if he was really scared would he really treat me as bad as he does? If he wanted to keep me, wouldn't he try a bit harder, and try to show that he wants me around?