Bach7
Jan 3, 2011, 02:53 PM
I am 21 and I have been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now and I'm beginning to have doubts about whether I love her. She is great! She is such a wonderful girl and in most ways she is all I could ever ask for in a wife. Our relationship, however, is long distance. She lives 6 hours away. We are both in school and still live with our parents. We are both very involved in our churches and share the same religious convictions. This is very important to me but rather rare.
Our backgrounds, however, are very different. Her parents are involved in the church and she has been raised a very sheltered life. I was not raised this way. My parents don't go to church. Sometimes it feels like our different backgrounds cause problems. Not that we argue, it's just that I feel like she doesn't truly know me. She barely knows my parents and they mean so much to me.
That brings me to another problem. Lately I have been also battling a fear/anxiety/depression not only about the girlfriend situation but also my family. Since I have been dating her I feel like I have neglected my parents so much. It suddenly hit me how much I love them and am not ready to move out and leave them yet. Yes, I know it's weird. It just came out of nowhere. I suddenly REALLY enjoy spending time with them. It's almost like I have a sense of urgency about it.
Back to the girlfriend situation... I have felt lately that I don't really desire to talk to her or go see her. I'd rather just spend time with my family. This has been going on for a few months now. I don't know if I should break up with her or not? I'm supposed to be driving to see her soon and I'm really afraid of how the visit will go. Any advice? What should I do?
Our backgrounds, however, are very different. Her parents are involved in the church and she has been raised a very sheltered life. I was not raised this way. My parents don't go to church. Sometimes it feels like our different backgrounds cause problems. Not that we argue, it's just that I feel like she doesn't truly know me. She barely knows my parents and they mean so much to me.
That brings me to another problem. Lately I have been also battling a fear/anxiety/depression not only about the girlfriend situation but also my family. Since I have been dating her I feel like I have neglected my parents so much. It suddenly hit me how much I love them and am not ready to move out and leave them yet. Yes, I know it's weird. It just came out of nowhere. I suddenly REALLY enjoy spending time with them. It's almost like I have a sense of urgency about it.
Back to the girlfriend situation... I have felt lately that I don't really desire to talk to her or go see her. I'd rather just spend time with my family. This has been going on for a few months now. I don't know if I should break up with her or not? I'm supposed to be driving to see her soon and I'm really afraid of how the visit will go. Any advice? What should I do?