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Jan 3, 2011, 03:25 AM
I've been dating a guy for a few months and I'm suspecting he might have tendencies of a sociopath. He says he liked to beat up kids when younger for no reason, thinks killing might be fun if you're guaranteed to not get caught, thinks wars and wiping out regions are sometimes best to solve political situations, the list goes on and on. He was so charming and caring in the beginning, shared a lot of personal space and possessions. The radical talk on one hand and his caring gestures on the other was what completely threw me off.
Then out of the blue, he said he needed a break. I thought it was all for the best and grieved for the relationship. Then I found out that he was in town when he said he would be traveling for a few weeks. He used to be really protective of his phone, would even always take it into the bathroom even when we were at the house. I was suspecting he was lying, but now I know for sure he lies. Now I'm pretty sure that all those unanswered phone calls and excuses for not getting back during his business trips were also full of lies.
During his so-called travel (the one he is supposed to be on after the break), he texted me and checked up on me as if to suggest that he will be further pursuing the relationship after he 'gets back.'
Now that I'm armed with this knowledge (have gone as far as to read "sociopath next door"), I am ready to run like mad. I may be starting to get paranoid, but I am genuinely fearful of what he might be capable of. He lives minutes away (he knows where I live) and we work at the same company. I have not confronted him or said I want to break up. He said he is friends with all his exs, so even if I break up, I get the feeling that he'll initiate contact. My life has become darker since I've met him. I just want to run away and not have to deal with this at all. Especially now that I know his true colors, I want to cut all ties and associations and wipe myself clean of him.
What would be my best way of dealing with him without provoking him in any way?
Tell him that I know he lies and thus I can no longer continue the relationship?
Don't confront him at all and just disappear as best as I can from his radar? Or make excuses every time he contacts so that he may not suspect anything?
The answer might be really simple, but without many friends or family in town, I'm really starting to fear for my safety.
Thank you for any advice you can give!
Then out of the blue, he said he needed a break. I thought it was all for the best and grieved for the relationship. Then I found out that he was in town when he said he would be traveling for a few weeks. He used to be really protective of his phone, would even always take it into the bathroom even when we were at the house. I was suspecting he was lying, but now I know for sure he lies. Now I'm pretty sure that all those unanswered phone calls and excuses for not getting back during his business trips were also full of lies.
During his so-called travel (the one he is supposed to be on after the break), he texted me and checked up on me as if to suggest that he will be further pursuing the relationship after he 'gets back.'
Now that I'm armed with this knowledge (have gone as far as to read "sociopath next door"), I am ready to run like mad. I may be starting to get paranoid, but I am genuinely fearful of what he might be capable of. He lives minutes away (he knows where I live) and we work at the same company. I have not confronted him or said I want to break up. He said he is friends with all his exs, so even if I break up, I get the feeling that he'll initiate contact. My life has become darker since I've met him. I just want to run away and not have to deal with this at all. Especially now that I know his true colors, I want to cut all ties and associations and wipe myself clean of him.
What would be my best way of dealing with him without provoking him in any way?
Tell him that I know he lies and thus I can no longer continue the relationship?
Don't confront him at all and just disappear as best as I can from his radar? Or make excuses every time he contacts so that he may not suspect anything?
The answer might be really simple, but without many friends or family in town, I'm really starting to fear for my safety.
Thank you for any advice you can give!