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Betsiew
Jan 1, 2011, 04:57 PM
I was dating a guy for 2years until out of nowhere he dumped me. We were going to move in together and were always talking about our future. It was such a shock.. Even though he dumped me we still had a lot of contact. He never gave me the feeling that it was truly over. A month later I found out he had been sleeping with and dating another girl the day after we broke up. I was broken. I couldn't let him go. We were still meeting up and it usually seemed like nothing was going on..
All that has really changed is that he is mind****ing me. I'm fat, dumb and ignorant. Everything I think is wrong. These things he says 50% of the time, because the other 50 he is sweeter than sweet and the most loving guy ever.
Now, 4 months have passed and I'm still an emotional wreck . He says he still wants to see me, without us seeing other people. But not too much because I'll irritate him too much. The worst part is, no matter what ill do anything for him.. Bike 50min on Christmas eve to see him because he's alone, do schoolwork, be nice and loving without anything in return.. I feel like the weakest person in the world because I still believe he loves me, and that this is just a "phase" he is going through...

Why am I so weak?

talaniman
Jan 1, 2011, 06:58 PM
No its not a phase. You have allowed him to treat you this way because he doesn't have to worry about losing you for any reason. Dump him, and prove to yourself you can be strong because you care about yourself, even if he doesn't.

Just because you are weak for him now doesn't mean you have to stay weak, does it??

CRS22
Jan 1, 2011, 09:23 PM
Hey don't think like that.. my boyfriend and I were together for 2 1/2 years.. he says he didn't cheat on me and all that stuff I just knew it in my gut he was, I even lost all my friends because they new what he was doing except me until I realized it.. while I was with my boyfriend I was working on talking to my old friends so things could go back to the way they used to be and I told my friend, girl if your cousin asks me out I'm going to give it a try.. well her cousin did ask me out and said I didn't need to be going threw that kind of stuff with my boyfriend.. so he asked me out:) and I broke up with my boyfriend.. my ex cried and cried but was that really him? I don't know because before he wuld cheat on me like crazy (I no because he did it with my cousin and other people).. well the guy I left my boyfriend for treated me bad and would push me around and try to hit me.. I would cry at night because I hurt the guy I was so in love with for someone who would hit me:( we somehow began to keep in contact like txtn and meeting places.. I then found out he just told me all the things liked, like he wanted to get back with me and work things out.. well he lied:( nw I'm about 5 weeks pregnant and he don't want nuthing to do with me saying he has someone in his life and he don't wnt me, well he loved me when it came to that he didn't have second thoughts about that.. sorry well as you can see I'm mad, I'm not mad because of what he said I'm mad because he wanted me to kill our baby, well I'm NOT going to.. I'm saying I went threw what you went threw.. n it sux.. keep your head up ignore him and he will realize how much he needs and wants you.. bt if you keep txtn, kalin, or even seeing him he won't want to get with you.. he will keep you thinking yeah we going to get back and all that trust me I no.. Please don't keep crying because ill only get worse:( I no, I'm so in love with my bby daddy he don't wnt me no more.. all I have to do is give it time.. I mean that's all we can do:( if he loves you he'll come back;)

talaniman
Jan 2, 2011, 09:52 AM
I mean that's all we can do if he loves u he'll come back

And do the same stuff again?

Why do you allow it??