I am a 19 yr old male and I have been kind of seeing a woman I met at work. By kind of seeing I mean we kiss a little and cuddle no sex or anything serious. We both like each other but aren't sure if we want a relationship. Well last weekend we went to a party and she drank too much and kissed her best guyfriend who also has a girlfriend. Do I have a right to be mad? Should I put it behind me and continue getting to know her? Since we are not seeing each other exclusively

Well, since you are not seeing her exclusively, you really have no real means of getting all puffy about her seeing other people; however, if she's kissing you and kissing another guy at the same party, then you definitely have the right to be upset about that.

I would be more concerned that she is kissing a guy that she knows has a girlfriend. She is contributing to cheating and I wouldn't really want to have much to do with a girl like that.

Nor would I really want to have much to do with a girl who gets drunk and goes around kissing whoever.

Nor would I get involved with someone I work with.

Few red flags here isn't there? Do you think it may be best if you forgot about her and looked at dating some other people with better morals and not working for the same company as you??

No, you don't have a right to be mad, but I'm with Skell here, why would you want to be with somebody who gets drunk and kisses guys with girlfriends?

Well I can tell you that if you do get upset with her about this she isn't going to be seeing you anymore. That being said, I would pull back because she has several red flags which skell has addressed.

All of these are valid points. But the "drive" for a male or female to have "power" in any situation can be an intoxicating thing. Both sexes want to feel they are irresistible to the other sex. It's like showing off. "I can have him or him or him" or "I can have her or her or her." Even married people can appreciate the feeling that someone other then your partner looks at you with interest. It doesn't mean that you are cheating but we all want to feel like we are still attractive. Of course, once you are married then it is cheating to be kissing other people. One of the previous post mentioned something along the line that the fun of dating has changed. Just because you are seeing a person shouldn't shut you off from seeing other people till you become something official like engaged or married. The dating stuff is to check out the waters. Dip your toes in there and move on to the next pond. Till you find the right one. Having one date doesn't make you exclusive unless you got engaged on the 1st date. Have fun and enjoy the experience ---- Ace

"Andyburnstein disagrees: I dont think seeing someone at work is a bad thing...its not like we work together we each have tottally different jobs"

That is not what the disagree button is for.