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hionlife
Dec 31, 2010, 11:33 PM
I have noticed that woman now just don't know what they truly want men also but more so woman
Little about me come from a wonderful loving family 4 sisters 2 brothers parents married for 45 + yrs till my dad passed away I'm in the Entertainment field 75% of the people I work with are single 60 % divorced My Graduating class 65% single or divorced my closest friends 70 % single 50% were divorced something to think about WHY is this
All woman seem to want the same things Loving,caring , affectionate, trust worthy , good looking ,communication ,confident , some one that's got their back thick and thin to build a future with the list goes on.. I can say I've seen when woman and some guys have had this right in front of them and give it up not working on the relationship like it needs to be, thinking its greener on the other side and try to come back to the right person only they 've moved on because they know what they want. So many times what was I thinking I had mr right or my Queen now there alone realizing this after they have been treated like sh-- from the other relationships YOu know in your heart when its right and need to remember what brought you together and keep rekindling that so you don't get lazy and comfortable in it then start thinking its better on the other side people its right in front of you no one is perfect what's perfect is when your able to oversee your partners in-perfections ones in-perfections may not be the same to someone else every ones different they may not see what you see so come on now not all woman or men are cheaters either so don't bring old baggage to something new will not won't work!
U can't change people you can only change yourself, If u want it. Sorrrry I could keep going I won't any input feel free like to get some insight on this matter

gara
Jan 1, 2011, 03:33 AM
Women right now , and women before 20 years are different , and when you mentioned , women want love caring etc , add with your list money , woman now days are hard to handle , can't under stand what they want , confused and lost , and if you break up with them , they will tell every body you break her little cute heart or she get dumped , while every one will look at you in different eye , we are good toys for women this present time , and frankly they are doing quite good , they will tell you they love you next day you will see yourself standing in the edge wishing to die and wishing that you never met her , goldiggers are a lot, they are not looking for love , it's all about relatioship for period stand , that what I call them, worst then the devils , and trust me ever man his dream to find a woman or a girl looks like his mother , it will never be , this the 21 century , so don't be shocked what you see or hear every day.

Devorameira
Jan 1, 2011, 06:30 AM
Obviously gara has had a bad time with women, but this isn’t all about women. There are men AND women all over this world that are never satisfied with anything they have. That’s obvious when you look at how many people cheat and/or break up.

Being dissatisfied seems to almost be the norm anymore. Just like they say, "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" and "keeping up with the Jones's". Almost everyone is dissatisfied with some things in their life. We all think that everyone else is better off.

I don’t know if a true secret recipe for happiness and satisfaction exists; all I can do is tell you that you have to learn to accept. The majority of people pretty much feel discontent with some things in their life. Some people are just better at brushing things off and moving forward than others.

joypulv
Jan 1, 2011, 07:25 AM
The world is changing rapidly, and both men and women don't know what they want oftentimes. Roles are not defined, arranged marriages are only in some countries and religions, matchmaking is on the decline too.

I think it is a huge mistake to generalize so much, however. You just need to keep looking, hoping, and presenting yourself for who you are and not what you think someone wants.

I see nothing cold about being practical first and emotional second - say what you do, what you want out of life, what your upbringing and education were like, what sort of person you hope to find. Then if you both meet those criteria, find out if you click on the next level.

talaniman
Jan 1, 2011, 09:27 AM
I don't think this is just about women, or men. Its about people who don't take the time to see who they are dealing with before they jump into something committed and call it a relationship. When it fails, they jump right into another one before the dust has settled on the old one. Why? We all look to be happy, but rely on somebody else to do it for us, and make us happy.

To much, to fast, Crash and burn.

To have a healthy adult relationship, you have to be a healthy adult, to know if your partner is one. Then you have to be willing to do the work of maintaining that relationship, and that takes patience, and honesty. For sure when you are not honest with yourself, and are not happy, and secure in yourself, you can hardly give that to another. And they cannot give it to you and all you have is chaos, and conflict.

A few simple rules to follow,

Talaniman Rule- never be in a hurry to give your heart to a stranger. Wait until they have proven they deserve it, and know what to do with it.

Talaniman Rule- Doesn't matter how intense the feelings, or how much fun you have, never give your heart to someone you don't know well, and that's only after the lust has worn off for you both.

Talaniman Rule- Be honest with yourself, and be honest with others.

Talaniman Rule-When you stop looking for love, and do your thing, and enjoy ALL YOUR OPTIONS, AND OPPORTUNITIES, love will find you.

Talaniman Rule-Build a life that you enjoy without a mate and your happiness will attract people who will want to share in it with you.

Talaniman Rule- Give yourself 6 months of dating and getting to know someone, before you decide together to be DATING EXCLUSIVELY, and having fun getting to know each other.

When you stop looking for instant success, and build toward it, it's a lot more solid. It starts with you, not another human being, but with the relationship you have with YOURSELF. If that ain't no good, neither will one with another human being be.

Love is a verb, that reflect what you are willing to do, not a feeling to blindly follow.